Instanced housing is absolutely needed in this game. For those of us who love housing and decorating and want a million of them, for people like this who want it for status but never use it, for people who desperately want one but don't have time to wait for destruction timers... Non instanced serves very few people, and the only people it serves are those who want to lord their status over others, so even though in this instance I think OP is at fault, SE still needs to change their system, or at least add a separate housing system that is instanced.