1.20 did not destroy melee combat. It made it much more enjoyable and dynamic. AA is a common staple in MMO melee combat, and thus saying the inclusion of it ruined the game is a rather weak assertion.

I have all my melee classes leveled to 50. Again, I have tried them all. I would say my opinion holds more weight than your husband's, who by the sounds of it has PGL to approximately Lv25 and spends most of his time in game duoing with you.

The battle system as it is is worth paying for for many players. It is up to you whether or not you enjoy it or would like to play it.

As for your test example, might I inquire as to the level and type of the mobs?