I'm unbelievably grateful for the FFXIV fandom. Even when arguments break out you guys are infinitely kinder and more respectful than the vast majority of fandoms I've been in or seen.
That said, I've been watching how people handle different situations and noticed a lot of fans tend to bristle if players raise ideas or gameplay values that are different. That seems really weird to me since it's not like any of us have a real say in what devs do.
To me, it seems like fans here feel afraid a lot. Might be fear that crazy people will enter the game and pull a hostile takeover of the community. Might be fear that SE will abuse its power. Might be fear that if certain players get something they want or enjoy things in an alternate way, it will come at the expense of others.
In that place of being worried, some people tend to get hostile whenever they see a person who does or thinks things that are different from them. Not only is that spreading bad vibes unnecessarily, I think it's part of a pattern I've seen get out of control in other fandoms.
Elsewhere, I've seen people lash out in intolerance to the point that it made other fans miserable... and ultimately quit. Activity stagnates, the fandom shrinks, less content of lower quality starts emerging both from fans and canon creators (tied to money or trying to please just one group of fans)... it doesn't work out so well.
You guys aren't at that point or anything. I don't expect this post to magic away all arguments either, since people are gonna be people. But I'd like to invite you guys to keep in mind that while some players might enjoy things that are different from what you enjoy in the game, or might have ideas you don't agree with, they're not in a position of authority here and they're not sharing this stuff in order to screw you. Talking over different positions or concerns doesn't have to be a hostile thing.