Request for general advice for being good at playing

[KaivaC]

True, but in both those scenarios, I messed up in an area that put a big target on me, so I'm looking for ways to avoid things like this in the future. I'm not necessarily asking for things like rotations - I practice that on my main job and my backup job on a daily basis. Unless I just happen to have a gigantic target on my back that just follows me, no matter what character I am on, I'm generally wondering what I need to do to avoid being the target of stuff like this when it happens. One or two times, fine, I can brush it off. But then it happened a third time yesterday. Sensing a pattern here that I'm generally messing up to the point that players feel like they should jump on my case.

I guess what I'm asking of the forum is what in particular should I be on the lookout for, as a DPS, and probably as a tank too, to avoid having a fourth scenario is less than a month. Again, I do generally keep to myself and try not to attract any attention to myself whatsoever in duties (aside from greetings and maybe a compliment here and there). Watching aggro, I get. Know mechanics completely and don't hold back your opener, I also get. Holding mobs at all times and prioritize hate over DPS as a tank, I get that as well. But it feels like with my running into a third situation, I'm running into the problem that I'm doing something in fights that is irritating other players. So I want to eliminate as much of that as I possibly can.

Like Mal said, there was absolutely nothing you could've done in either situation. The first time you completely owned up to your mistake and learned from it, but even after the MT dying it was 100% a fully recoverable situation. OT should've provoked, and the healers should've gotten the MT up asap, but it sounds like they were more busy with blaming you than actually doing their jobs.

The second story I already replied to you int he DF threat but again, that was some serious griefing on both the tanks and healers.

My best advice to you is such - remember that no matter your own attitude, there will be bad players in this game. Worse, there will be bad people in this game. Sadly, they can and will interfere with your gaming experience. If you think there's anything to learn from it, like you did end up learning from both instances, take that and move on. Take a deep breath. Have a drink. Wash your face. Remind yourself this is a game, and they're jerks. Then smile and thank them for sparing you further time to be spent in their presence by kicking you.

I dunno...I mean, maybe I'm a little too bothered by this, but I can't help but wonder. I do appreciate the comments from that thread. It's just that after every run like this, I will be like 'What can I do to be better'.