Pushed to quit after 1,860 days subbed

[R-Pete-G]

... it's difficult for me to sympathize for someone losing their plot when they don't use it. Whether or not you have received notifications from SE is a moot point because of the fact that you have spent so much time away from your home for a notification to even be sent out. This tells me it is more important for you to own a plot that it is for you to actually live there.

To reiterate, no - this is not the case. I would have been furnishing it, "living" in it, if I had only had the time. It wasn't a decision I made, it was a consequence of real life. If you think that's still reason enough that I "deserved" to lose the house, you're entitled to that opinion. But it was certainly not an instance of someone sitting on a plot for the sake of owning one. I was extremely attached to it, and working on it was one of the things I was most looking forward to doing when life gave me the time to come back.

As for quitting, I'm realistic enough to know I may decide to return in the future. But for now, it is a significant factor - a collection I've been accumulating over 5 years has been largely wiped from existence, and for me those kinds of collections are one of the things I enjoy in an MMO. Losing that has, for the forseeable future at least, torpedoed my motivation to continue. And I know that the longer I'm not playing - not keeping on top of other things, collections, content - the less likely I'll feel able to return if there's too much to catch up on.

[Gemina]

To reiterate, no - this is not the case. I would have been furnishing it, "living" in it, if I had only had the time. It wasn't a decision I made, it was a consequence of real life. If you think that's still reason enough that I "deserved" to lose the house, you're entitled to that opinion. But it was certainly not an instance of someone sitting on a plot for the sake of owning one. I was extremely attached to it, and working on it was one of the things I was most looking forward to doing when life gave me the time to come back.

As for quitting, I'm realistic enough to know I may decide to return in the future. But for now, it is a significant factor - a collection I've been accumulating over 5 years has been largely wiped from existence, and for me those kinds of collections are one of the things I enjoy in an MMO. Losing that has, for the forseeable future at least, torpedoed my motivation to continue. And I know that the longer I'm not playing - not keeping on top of other things, collections, content - the less likely I'll feel able to return if there's too much to catch up on.

And I will reiterate to you that it is clear where your priorities were placed, and maintaining your home was indisputably lower on your list. You having RL circumstances that kept you away from the game is indicative of that. At the end of the day, each of us has to place our RL responsibilities over this game. I never said you deserved to lose your home, but what I am saying is that your case is unique and SE cannot set their housing rules and regulations according to individual cases.

SE also has to think about those who are actively playing the game everyday and desire housing but currently do not own a plot, or spend time in a shared plot such as an FC where permissions to modify the property are needed. The time they set for auto demolition is arbitrary, but how exactly do you set this number that is fair for those such as yourself, and those I just mentioned?

It is also quite clear where the primary source of your grief is, and it is the loss of your items more so than your property. You can get another plot. Maybe not the same size and location depending on your server, but the sentimental value in your personal items from events long gone... believe me I am so very sorry this has happened. I know it has to feel like a dagger to the heart. But it's also why I ask that you consider that while the items are gone, they are all just objects that represent the memories you still possess.

It always pains me when someone decides to leave the community, but if the motivation and enjoyment is not there then there isn't much left that can be helped. I do hope you can find it again, and I wouldn't worry about not being able to catch up. If you do find the fire again, those who share it will always be willing to help.

[Moomba33]

It's honestly baffling to me that we have achievement pop ups that can't be turned off but no pop up for the auto demolition or item deletion.

My condolences OP. I've been playing since ARR launched and I'd be really upset if I lost all the seasonal stuff I've been collecting since then.