(Rant Post) Why Does It Feel Like Giving Advice Is Evil?

[NanaWiloh]

I play tennis at a fairly competitive level (USTA 4.5) and I regularly get unsolicited advice from random people watching my matches, my opponent, or anyone in between.

It's called people sharing a hobby (in my case tennis). Giving advice is something people do in these situations. Gaming is 100% no different. We all share the hobby and there will always be someone who knows more than you so no matter how awful advice is presented be an adult and accept it with grace and weigh it's accuracy/relevancy. That skill will serve you infinitely more IRL than learning to rage because someone said something negative about you.

I once played a guy who was clearly a scumbag 5.0 sandbagging (nearly undefeated in the 4.5 division) and after he whooped my ass literally free, he had a few tips. He didn't hold my hand and say it's ok baby here's what you do, he said, your running forehand is a big weak spot in your game. Either get set earlier or develop that tool so it doesn't get abused so easily and walked off the court.

I learned a pretty filthy defensive forehand shot that has won me a ton of points since then. The bottom line here is that if someone offers you unsolicited advice you are the one who chooses your reaction, not them. Do you act like a petulant child or an adult?

Same can be said for Advice givers, when your advice is rejected or unused how you behave followng that speaks loads. Do you act like an adult and move on or like child and throw a fit.