(Rant Post) Why Does It Feel Like Giving Advice Is Evil?

[Averax]

I had a summoner once in HW during Fractal Continuum that was just applying dots and burning through aetherflow asap (with energy drain). He wasn't taking advantage of trance, and just using deathflare instantly on cooldown. He wasn't using ruin at all, but he would randomly cast tri-bind sometimes.

It was just a dungeon, but nothing was dying at all (because the ninja was periodically falling asleep during the run, irl), it took us an hour to get through the place. I told him that he needs to at very least be using ruin in his downtime, instead of just standing there waiting for aetherflow. I also told him to save Aetherflow stacks for Fester or Painflare/Bane if there's multiple enemies. I also told him he should be casting ruin 3 during trance and casting deathflare when it was almost over, and that he should never cast tri-bind (which was then useless).

How did he respond? He told me to back off and that he was only trying to have fun, and that i should focus on my healing because apparently i suck at it (despite nobody dying the entire time). Then he ragequit at the last boss.

I can't help but wonder what exactly is fun about playing like garbage, taking an hour to do something that should take about 15 minutes, and just standing there waiting for a mobs to die while you just watch your dots tick.

The ninja got an earful from me too. Told him if he can't stay awake during a dungeon, then he shouldn't queue.

People are stupid. So painfully, unashamedly stupid and stubborn. It's not worth it to try to offer friendly advice when a majority of people aren't willing to accept it nicely. Be blunt, and if they are unwilling to change, then they get the boot. Simple and painless. The tone you're trying to give does not come across in text. People assume you're insulting them directly, so it's best not to even bother and try to honey up your words.