This is where the problem came in, apparently upon her starting the quest with the silver wristlet it had automatically changed my wristlet too, so it was on the path without me actually agreeing to anything, so my Gold wristlet became a Silver wristlet that was in use.
After this we couldn't do anything to go back on the quest OR advance it at all. Talking to Claribel just makes her tell us about the Ceremony and says theres more information about it on the website. Talking to the other NPCs just lets us delete the wristlets and nothing else more since we aren't actually on the quest.
So not only has it turned a cash item into a free item, it has also blocked me out of being able to do the ceremony altogether.