With the exception of gardening, airships, and subs, every single amenity in an FC house is publicly available elsewhere in the game.
FFXIV doesn't have to cater to everyone, as that's the fastest way to ruin a good MMO. Look at what happened to WoW when they started down that path in Cata, and look where WoW is now.
And quite honestly, this situation needs to be resolved quickly and forcibly. It's shameful that SE has allowed this housing debacle to persist this long.