Ever felt you were too hard a someone and felt bad?

[Stormfur]

I try to be kind and compassionate to my fellow players -- because I'm playing with a certain disability and some things are just not physically possible for me. I have no idea if it's this way for others, but all I can do is my best. I don't berate people in-game, because it's just a game. If I feel like I want to tear someone's head off, I put the controller down and go for a walk or do something else.

[Alestorm]

Yesterday I had a newbie Paladin in Cutter's Cry and he kept stance swapping every trash pull. So everyone was trying to make sure he understood how the threat meters worked and that stance dancing wasn't a good idea at this level/on large mob pulls. He got pissed off just before the last fight and just said "bye!" and logged out. We lucked out since his replacement was a newbie, but was a much nicer Warrior who knew what he was doing.

All we were guilty of was trying to help him out and he stormed out like a 5 year old denied a toy/candy.

[Avatre]

Yesterday I had a newbie Paladin in Cutter's Cry and he kept stance swapping every trash pull. So everyone was trying to make sure he understood how the threat meters worked and that stance dancing wasn't a good idea at this level/on large mob pulls. He got pissed off just before the last fight and just said "bye!" and logged out. We lucked out since his replacement was a newbie, but was a much nicer Warrior who knew what he was doing.

All we were guilty of was trying to help him out and he stormed out like a 5 year old denied a toy/candy.

Reminds me of the Aery run about a year, possibly more, ago I did with a FC member. There were no problems with the tanking, we both noticed he used Provoke + Flash instead of Shield Lob + Flash to get the mobs onto him. Right before the second boss, FC member asked him why he preferred Provoke to Shield Lob. Tank blew up saying(pretty sure it was supposed to be in FC chat since the healer and tank were both in same FC) something along the lines of "See? Doesn't matter what I do I get criticized". The question wasn't in a "hey, you're an idiot for doing what you're doing, do it this other way", it was literally "why do you prefer Provoke over Shield Lob?". Tank refused to move forwards, so I initiated the kick, and healer apologized for the tanks behaviour. Had zero issues up until that point, and none after we got replacement.

[FoxyAreku]

Nah. It takes a lot for me to ram into someone, if I go overboard they probably deserved it.

[Gemina]

Ohhhhh yeah I have. Titan NM with a full cast of FC mates. I got knocked off by landslide and blamed all of them. Yup, I know.

It wasn't that I got knocked off though. It was the fact that they still were able to clear despite the fact that the healer (me) was eliminated from the fight, and I'm somehow supposed to feel like I beat a god during the cut scenes while being praised by NPCs who have no idea about my abysmal failure.

I ripped into each of them and they didn't even understand where the rage was coming from, which enraged me further. I rage-logged out, and my roommate who was also part of the group was kind enough to explain my emotional instability issues, and how I feel about living through trials.

I didn't deserve that courtesy. I deserved to be kicked from that FC. I'm still a member of that FC. New members are warned when they comment how nice I am from the vets that Gem has another side

[LittleChickenNugget]

Ohhhhh yeah I have. Titan NM with a full cast of FC mates. I got knocked off by landslide and blamed all of them. Yup, I know.

It wasn't that I got knocked off though. It was the fact that they still were able to clear despite the fact that the healer (me) was eliminated from the fight, and I'm somehow supposed to feel like I beat a god during the cut scenes while being praised by NPCs who have no idea about my abysmal failure.

I ripped into each of them and they didn't even understand where the rage was coming from, which enraged me further. I rage-logged out, and my roommate who was also part of the group was kind enough to explain my emotional instability issues, and how I feel about living through trials.

I didn't deserve that courtesy. I deserved to be kicked from that FC. I'm still a member of that FC. New members are warned when they comment how nice I am from the vets that Gem has another side

Did YOU at least apologize to them later?

[Grey-Satyr]

There have been numerous times where I've realized I came across as more harsh than I originally intended and I've gone out of my way to apologize. Most of the time it takes me a lot to really call someone out, though, so they are probably doing something that I see as justified.

[Gemina]

Did YOU at least apologize to them later?

Oh God! I didn't log in for days out of embarrassment. I didn't even think I would have an FC to apologize to. To my surprise, I wasn't booted and I did apologize to all of them. It was a long time ago, and I was so new back then. To this day though, if I die when we group, it feels like everyone starts walking on eggshells around me. It makes me regret that incident every time, and I try to joke about it to clear the air.

[NovaLevossida]

No, never. People are self-centered and don't want to recognize their own shortcomings or bother improving. The "expert" dungeons in this game are easy enough that you can carry. Case in point, some dude was in an expert roulette on healer playing on terrible hotel internet without a keyboard (he claimed), lagging, freezing out, disconnecting, letting the tank die, etc. We slogged through it. Took 50 minutes. At the end of it, I just said that if I were in his position and the lag was so bad that the game was borderline unplayable, I wouldn't subject other people to it. After I exited the dungeon, turns out he was on my server, managed to find a keyboard because he started typing really fast, and went on a long, furious rant about how people like me are the problem. So I blacklisted him and moved on.

That's the type of people you generally run into. And, yes, I didn't say that until the last boss had been defeated. That same type of player would throw a fit and start a vote kick. I know how fragile the snowflakes are.

[Kanitezz]

Some time ago, in Susano normal a Redmage kept rezzing people I was going to rez. Was wasting my mp. But they did good and I went off on them for that. I still feel bad about that.