man this thread started out with what seemed like an honest question then quickly turned into a whiny "why aren't they moving the stars for me?!"

Balmung is the result of human nature and S-E's only fault is not stopping it quicker.
Every MMO has that one server that a bunch of people on a forum decided is going to be "the big one" in advance so it gets a larger initial player injection then new people see that server is bigger and for no other reason than wanting to be on the big server flock to it as well.

Most companies "fix" is just making the concurrent player amount small and the solution is "sure you can play on this server but your gonna sit in 2 hours of queue every time you want to log in" driving people away by simply making the experience horrible. Which then results in people finding ways to stay logged in permanently while afk, pushing the company to have to do a daily server reset to clean out all the afk people clogging the server and it just spirals into even worse
S-E is actually showing they care about the players QoL and protecting the current players on the server by trying to prevent that situation any way possible and using incentives to move servers rather than punishments for staying. They are honestly handling it better than most any other company would