Is it too much to say thank you?

[QT_Melon]

I feel like the standards some people have on the forums are ridiculous.

Yet...here we are 50+ posts arguing about standards, instead of realizing there are many reasons people don't match up to your definition of standards...

If you drop something and someone picks it up for you, do you take it and ignore him because "it only takes a tiny bit of skill to pick something up"?

While this is a common courtesy in many cultures...this is a failed analogy. Someone dropped something it inconveniences someone else to pick it up. This is why a thank you occurs. Even if the inconvenience is slight.

It only takes two mouse clicks to commend someone and make them feel better. That takes 0 skill or effort. It's easy for a reason.

Your commendation isn't supposed to be some sort of heavenly gift you hand out to those you deem worthy of your presence or consideration.

Okay, this is a confusing presentation of an argument?

Bottom line for me, if they did their job well and the run went smoothly as a result, I give them a commend. If they're rude or refusing to listen to advice, I don't commend. Usually I give it to a healer who DPS'es well, since that makes the run much faster. It's thanks for not making that particular run fast and smooth. Its that simple.

No it's not, since you can only give ONE person a commendation. You then have to make a decision based on more criteria...and those who don't rush out the instance when you do want to commend a specific player.


In all honesty, some of the way you're arguing...reminds me of the "But I'm a nice guy/girl...why can't she/he see that" kind of thing. There's no entitlement due to your perceptions, and if anything you should be appreciative of when players have taken the time to maybe commend you or that other girl/guy over there takes a look at you with interest.

As much as I make fun of "no commends?!!?" during various runs, I do enjoy times when certain circumstances I get commendations, rather than waste breath on times that it hasn't happened.

[winsock]

It's pretty common for players to greet each other at the start of the duty and say something like "ty for the group" or "gg all" at the end.

Full disclosure: Sometimes I expect comms.
On most content I don't really care. But for example, main tanking main scenario would be an instance where I expect it. The majority of the time, it's a multi-comm run, but every once and a great while, I'll leave with nothing despite the run going very well. I know I shouldn't expect it and that expectation really only yields disappointment if the comms aren't there, but I can't help it. The idea of not running main scenario out of disappointment seems preferable to learning to change my expectations for it.

[Kabooa]

When someone told me in a random Omega Normal "Jace, you're a fantastic black mage", it meant more than all the commendations I've ever received.

And I felt like crap because I was already in the loading screen out and couldn't respond.

[Risvertasashi]

Do you as a healer take the time to thank your DPSes for making the runs possible even after suffering longer queues than yours? Guessing, Not very often.

Not going to bother reading the whole thread but I'm just going to say -- yes, actually. If a run is fast because, for once, I got DPS that actually care enough to do their jobs, you bet I'm complimenting them and comming them. (As well, these are usually the ones that care enough to use their support abilities should the party stumble).

If this doesn't happen very often it's because most aren't good or are uncaring. I'm not going to thank DPS that are doing half their potential or less, for sure.

[Bongaboi]

I give my commendations generally to the tank (by default) or to players in my dungeon or trial party who have given me positive messages of support or who have otherwise left a positive impression on the party clearing the dungeon/trial. Those who question my ability or anyone else's with tactless remarks will most likely get a report instead as they are nowhere close to constructive.

[Okamimaru]

Tank adjusts pulls to the ability and composition of the party and holds agro? Get a com. Healer keeps everyone alive despite the dps face tanking half the mechanics and still can toss out some dps? Get a com. DPS uses their skills to the maximum potential avoids as much unneeded damage as possible uses role skills to help group? Get a com.... all players meet above criteria? Player with best glam/name/attitude/or playing most hated class for their role get the com... throwing salt? No com.

[Teraluna]

thank y.......

oh, apparently it is.

[Ilan]

100% True...

Although to be honest, I get a little sad when I don't get any commendations.

Well sometimes when you literally carried 3 people on your back and don't get a single com...i understand it that someone gets a little sad. For me its more like that i laugh then.

[Renee]

While I don't expect any thanks or praising from anyone during any kind of instance run, I'll always take care to thank everyone after every run. Sometimes people say thanks in the form of commendations, while they're being completely silent during the whole run. Every player with their own style, as long as they do not disrespect anyone.

Yes, I agree. Taking a few seconds to say thank you isn't a bad thing.

[Ilyrian]

It seems to be an unwritten rule that every time I think I deserve comms ... I won't get any. Ce la vie.