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    Quote Originally Posted by Bowen View Post
    Whatever happened to "Love thy neighbor"?
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    Neighborly love should go jump off a cliff and die. (I'm partially kidding.)

    One should have to work to earn respect/love, like anything else.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Dragon View Post
    One should have to work to earn respect/love, like anything else.
    Agreed. People who think they automatically deserve respect just for existing, no. I won't disrespect you either, but until you prove, not intentionally of course, if you deserve it or not, I'll withhold it. And before anyone feels they have to please me to earn my respect, that's no true either. If I see your normal self worthy of respect, then you get it.

    Like the term "respect your elders".... Only if they are deserving of it in my eyes. And it doesn't take much either.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ispano View Post
    Agreed. People who think they automatically deserve respect just for existing, no. I won't disrespect you either, but until you prove, not intentionally of course, if you deserve it or not, I'll withhold it. And before anyone feels they have to please me to earn my respect, that's no true either. If I see your normal self worthy of respect, then you get it.

    Like the term "respect your elders".... Only if they are deserving of it in my eyes. And it doesn't take much either.
    Really, so an entire culture is "doing it wrong" according to you? In Mexican culture, people have respect, and are respected the moment you meet them. There is no reason why they should "earn" a person's respect. The only thing that is earned, is the loss of respect.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lavani View Post
    Really, so an entire culture is "doing it wrong" according to you? In Mexican culture, people have respect, and are respected the moment you meet them. There is no reason why they should "earn" a person's respect. The only thing that is earned, is the loss of respect.
    That's my opinion. And my opinion is as such because I see MANY people who feel they should be respected just for existing, but when I see their personality, I just cannot do so. And when I say earn, I don't mean they need to do things to earn it. For example, if I meet someone new, i'm neutral to them. If I now see that person do something helpful by choice, like helping the elderly or almost anything, they have just earned respect. If I see them do something stupid (in my eyes for this and the previous, obviously) like say parking their car in the middle of the street just to talk to someone, they lose respect, if any was had in the first place.

    EDIT: This comes from a different mentality. Many people believe you should automatically smile when you meet someone new. Some people don't think that way. I was neutral towards you initially, and since there's no real change in the "relationship" i'm still neutral towards you, not your best friend. But the other side often takes this as me/someone being angry or upset at them, when it's far from the truth.

    Here's a link to explain what I mean, it's #2 on the second page.
    http://www.cracked.com/blog/6-mislea...-quiet-people/
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    Last edited by ispano; 11-09-2011 at 04:57 AM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dragon View Post
    Neighborly love should go jump off a cliff and die. (I'm partially kidding.)

    One should have to work to earn respect/love, like anything else.
    This is partially true.
    Everyone should respect another person and their opinions to a certain degree. Now, people lose and gain respect based on their actions. You shouldn't judge another before you know them. If you find that they are disrespectful of you or someone else, then you lose respect of them (Or rather, I hope you would) and if they do nice things and respect others than they deserve more respect.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bowen View Post
    You shouldn't judge another before you know them.
    It's normal to judge someone, even without knowing them. If I see someone on the street i've never seen before, i'll make a judgement on the spot about him based on how he looks, how he walks, what he's doing and many other things. That's very normal. People telling me not to judge, are basically telling me not to think. Now this isn't a permanent thing either, if I see that person more and he does different things that would make that original judgement wrong, then it changes.

    Also, I respect no one that I have never met, don't know, whatever. But I also don't disrespect them either.
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