Tank want to train mob but didnt use CD or have decent ilvl, what do?

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Tank want to train mob but didnt use CD or have decent ilvl, what do?

Heal it as best you can.

I just want to point this out for the sake of identifying factors that contributed to this situation: What you chose to do, you did because you were insecure. You abandoned 3 ppl (2 of which were innocent bystanders) because the tank hurt your ego. And let's face, it your ilvl complaint is unreasonable. You don't need max ilvl, even to pull big. You are reaching for anything you can find to blame the tank for the situation, to help reinforce the idea that you were in the right.

We are also talking about a tank who you say was using cooldowns in your post (not the way you wanted him to), but not in your thread title, and your character search would indicate you have little to no experience tanking dungeons. In general (and esp with your lack of experience), I would avoid telling the tank what to do/what he didn't do, and if the tank complains, just describe what happened without throwing blame around like: "I was on full cure II spam. Not sure what happened". By saying something like this, you are letting the group know you were pushing significant HPS, letting the tank know you expect him to survive with cure II spam, but aren't trying to pin blame or standoff vs other party members.

You aren't going to get ideal groups all the time in pugs... Just do your best to help the run succeed and try to mitigate potential drama where you can.