Can we dial back the forum vitriol...?

[Tint]

i got depressions from the forum community. i just can't handle healing and dpsing. after 3 years of playing healer main and almost another year as secondary class i still can't handle that. i never will. reading healers who don't dps are "bad" and "lazy" and much more less friendly words has caused that i just can't play healer anymore. i really loved playing a healer, it was the whole reason i started FFXIV in the first place: to be a White Mage.
but not being able to meet the expectations, always thinking "this is not enough dps, push for more!" removed not only all fun i had, but also turned me into a mental wreck. okay, that's not true, i had social anxiety already before i started FFXIV, but this community made it even worse.
i know nice people ingame, who are telling me i don't have to dps, that it's okay to just heal. but it's in my head. i know that it's not okay, i know you call me bad and lazy and whatnot. i just can't stand it anymore. i switched to DRK a year ago, but the 4.0 changes to the DRK gameplay made me reconsider to play the WHM again. also the removal of cleric should make dpsing easier, right? noo... no, i just can't handle it. now i am considering to quit the game. but of course that will not happen... so i am sitting here with depression and don't know what to do...