I'm not even sure why this is such a hotly contested issue. Do I personally wish that there was strength on my accessories, that my attacks hit harder? Of course I do. But if it means sacrificing my own tankiness, then that's not a trade-off I personally like.

If I were an absolute cutting edge raider, if I were in a highly competitive static, then yes, these melding issues would be something I would be involved with. But most players aren't. Hell, most players aren't in statics, and many who are will try to meld to their static's personal playstyle. And getting worked up about that fact is just a waste of time and sanity.