Just some friendly advice from a healer

[BigRed5392]

When you do brand new raids that literally no one else has done either, please don't lash out at other players who messed up a mechanic. Take it easy. Relax. And remember, it's a video game...not your finals.

Likewise, if you mess up a mechanic, please don't feel like you failed. We all die from brand new fights and we also learn from those. It's ok.

Just remember, FFXIV is a game that you should enjoy. It's all good! New encounters may have wipes...it happens.

If you're a healer and a dps dies in a brand new instance, please don't call them out. Do your job and resurrect them. Believe me, they feel as bad that they died as you do for resurrecting them.


If someone berates you like this is real life, just ignore them...they probably have some real life issues going on...or they are taking it too seriously.

Play to have fun. Play smart. Remember the mechanics to be better at it next time. It's all good

~funbrowniewhitemage

re-posting for emphasis
(if this next part offend people, you know what grow up)

My girlfriend, whom i met on ff14 is an awesome player. She takes her role as tank serious enough to learn all she can, tries her best to communicate any issue she is having. Always says she new to content, even if its her 3rd run. Over the years, people do give her a hard time when she fails. It sucks, and it doesn't help she has ASD.

This no sob story, nor a lie. She loves helping players, and enjoys working as a team. Yet people don't eat a piece of humble pie, and berate her for communicating when she sees a problem. And this had nearly made her quiet ff14. She love the game, not the community.

Ff11 community, from what she said was so much better then this, no made a fuss over cs, no one would insult others from being new. People went out of their way to help a player out.

I think we all need to grow up, and stop acting like everyone else is an Npc, wake up to reality that some things can be a bit harder to do for others then yourself. Stop playing poorly out of spite.

to tanks i say: if people pull, do everything you can to get aggro. Step up instead of letting ppl die to "teach them a lesson." Try to communicate to your party, ask before large pulling, ask what the group wants, and try to compromise. Mark mobs so they know which mob you pulled.

to healers: stop letting ppl die and not raising them out of spite, not everyone had good reaction time, and at times make poor choices. Stop punishing people by not healing/raising them. Dps isn't your job, its healing the group. Stop letting your tank get close to death, it can give people anxiety.

to dps: watch your enmity, let the tank mark mobs so runs can go smooth. Let the tank pull, the tank knows their limits. Don't pull ahead, don't run ahead. Use skills that help the group, not just blindly do dps. Attacking mobs at random, or solo killing a mob to pad your parse doesn't help the group.


to everyone: communication is key, using excuses of subjective concepts like : "this dungeon is easy" is a poor excuse to not communicate. If a tank has an issue listen, if the healers is having an issue listen, if the dps is having an issue listen. Scoffing at communication is a bad move, it doesn't make the run faster. It doesn't help in making a run successful.


When you have ASD, you already have high anxiety, and it can be hard to communicate. My g/f tries in spite of that, so she can be a good team player. When people make fun of her, scoff at her attempts to talk, it makes her role that much harder. Her first tanking experience in an endgame dungeon was some healer saying she shoulda been a stain on the bed sheets. No excuse for that.


again re-posting the above as imo it needs to be echo'ed for the reasons i stated. Jp community has no issues with acting like civil players and communicating issues out. Why does NA dc act pretty bad? no excuse imo.