Just some friendly advice from a healer

[Annah]

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My girlfriend, whom i met on ff14 is an awesome player. She takes her role as tank serious enough to learn all she can, tries her best to communicate any issue she is having. Always says she new to content, even if its her 3rd run. Over the years, people do give her a hard time when she fails. It sucks, and it doesn't help she has ASD.

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I hear you. That's why I made this post. A lot of folks, I think, should just relax a lot more. Everything doesn't have to be perfect or rushed to perfection faster than humanly possible.

We should have fun playing this game and when you don't have fun playing this game then there is not point in it. Your gf should bever be berated like that. Being helpful is the name of the game.

[BigRed5392]

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ya i don't get people. :/ She even said that ff11 had a way better community. And she showed me a youtube doc by a soberdwarf detailing how difficulty made for community.

She did just try the new tank buffs and they help, outside a drg and smn killing different mob, she had no real, enmity issue. Just sucks the smn had their pet on sic, (some mobs kept getting knocked back.) but she will ask dps to use enmity reducers if dps enmity is to high. Just shame ppl find it funny.
unlike jp DC , NA dc seems to think berating ppl is better then working together.

I'm proud of her though, she tanks well considering. And she tries to be pleasant and communicate, in spite of her disability.

[caponesavage]

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to dps: watch your enmity, let the tank mark mobs so runs can go smooth. Let the tank pull, the tank knows their limits. Don't pull ahead, don't run ahead. Use skills that help the group, not just blindly do dps. Attacking mobs at random, or solo killing a mob to pad your parse doesn't help the group.

I get this point. As a person who mainly enjoys playing as DPS classes I never understood why people dont watch their agro or at least if you pull agro either use an agro reduction skill or jump to another enemy and allow the tank to regain control. Hell even on boss fights I have pulled from tanks and just stopped dpsing all together to allow the tank to regroup and regain control. Its really not that hard to be not only considerate but also know that everyone has their role and you are doing yours poorly being an ass.

[Gun-Cat]

I have no idea where all these horror scenarious come from. Only time I ever saw people give up on new content was Ozma due to others not placing the falling stars correctly. In ever other instance, including yesterdays new raid tier, people had fun, kept trying and talking plenty to each other. Maybe it is my positive attitude, but I rarely encounter much negativity or outright rage from others.

[Annah]

I have no idea where all these horror scenarious come from. Only time I ever saw people give up on new content was Ozma due to others not placing the falling stars correctly. In ever other instance, including yesterdays new raid tier, people had fun, kept trying and talking plenty to each other. Maybe it is my positive attitude, but I rarely encounter much negativity or outright rage from others.

If you've only experienced amazing groups then that's awesome. Sadly, for some folks, this isn't necessarily the case.

[Sylvina]

Meanwhile we have idiots who continue to lecture us on how "easy" everything in the game is including extremes and savage content, complete and utter nonsense if I've ever heard it.

If you're good at something difficult then you're good at it, it doesn't change the difficulty in the slightest. Don't belittle the accomplishment of yourself and others who have cleared content by lying about it being easy.

[Maero]

Great post OP, finally something more positive from the community

[Vamelo]

We call those kinds of people "Jerks" in my neck of the woods. They, as a rule, over-estimate their own performance, and are quick to spread blame be it over the morning toast being burnt, to someone eating the last Oreo. Jerks get to be on the internet just like everyone else. You have to deal with them IRL. You have to deal with them here. FORTUNATELY HERE, as was mentioned, we do have that trusty blacklist. Too bad you can't do that IRL.

Beware tough guys with helicopter memes. They were the ones in the rear with the gear now acting like the tough guy with the thousand-yard stare.