I like this game but some people I met here have traumatized me.

[Niqote]

Speaking from personal experience; Sometimes you just have to teach yourself to focus your emotions and energy on the people that matter and not devote anything to those who would only bring negativity into your life.

Letting go isn't easy, but it's also something only you can learn for yourself.

[Alleo]

I know what it must feel like, at least in some parts. I had someone in FF14 in my old FC that I truly saw as a friend and trusted her. Yet after years I was put aside for a another person and it really hurt but at that moment I decided that game is never worth such pain so I went away from the FC, created one with only a real life friend that I could trust and since then it got better. Now I only feel pity for that person.

At the same time I had another person that was nice on the outside but turned out to be a really horrible person. I was not the only one. that that person hurt with their behavior and it seems that they are FC jumping, maybe to get a kick out of that? Either way I sometimes get the feeling that those players are never truly punished, while others are banned for the smallest things.

The best you could do is trying to forget them and start to be a bit more slower with ingame friendships because if you do not know them in real life you will never truly know who they are. Also if you feel like this is too emotional for you try to get away from it a bit. I first thought that it would be the best to try to save the "friendship" but over the time I realized how it was influencing my real life too so I decided that it was enough, and this was the best decision I could do.

Friendship is never all about sunshine and rainbows but a true friend will never behave like that so you should not call them friends anymore. And if you see that you cant overcome it, dont be ashamed to call for help in real life.

[ManuelBravo]

I do not want to experience a similar thing again, it really is frightening.

Thank you very much ><

Hmmm when your playing a game online is a risk that you take. Yes you may have some great experiences, and you may also meet some trolls out there who just really don't have nothing better to do with their time. There are all types. With this being said, it's sad but true, The world has become a bit soft and people get easily offend or feel attacked. Online games are not a safe space type of deal were people get along. The world isn't that nice and no one is special. It's a harsh lesson and it's great that there are players like you. If your dramatized by something as little as this you may need some professional help do to being over protected while growing up. ( this is what happens when they want everyone to get a trophy for just trying ) As parents we all want to protect our children and sometimes we over protect them to the point were when reality hits they get traumatized. So it's all about your state of mind, why let harsh people get to you? As long as you did your part that is all that matters. If you run into a bad apple maybe they are RPing, maybe they are just total trolls, blacklist them and move on.

If we were in the same server I would help you overcome this...to a point as a fellow gamer. However this is part of life. How you handle this opportunity can shape who you are and I'm hopping it's for the best. Be open to friendships just don't get your hopes up. Accept them for who they are and expect the same. If betrayed move on and say thank you one less headache :P

[Xerxus___]

I understand how you feel, from what you have said in your age perspective I was not different back than when i was a teenager. The only friends I had were in Mmorpgs, now the thing was my social life went down the drain i missed school or got send home due to not focusing at all. Thus you have to understand no matter how friendly a person may be in a game or how appealing they seem to talk, never attache yourself to people who you do not know. Only trust does you know in real life. Moreover love and care for does who you can hold in your arms, have a laugh, have a walk with them seeing them eye to eye. Do not let your emotions from people who do not know you, break your hearts content in real life. Words wont teach but people here are giving you advice, cherish that, others may never get to see or hear it. Your not alone.

[eaudaemon]

What your experiencing is what we call online as internet drama.

As far as I can tell just from your post alone is that your a pretty nice guy, very sympathetic also very vulnerable, but you have to get smart about these things and have the courage to say: "No! I don't want to hear or know what your going through, coz even if I do, there is nothing I can do to help you...", Everybody has problems, but not everybody is going around dumping their issues with people they meet online, Sympathy is a drug that fuels some people, you have to learn when to give it and when not too.

Look your probably the type of guy that likes to help people, but just like me we don't have the education or proper training help anybody we don't meet in person.

[JumperX]

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I am going to say what i once said to a friend. The experience with the first person you mention sounds more to me like you a crush on them. Whether or not you are a guy or an actual girl, the feelings can be just platonic. My friend would even ditch me most of the time lol to help this new girl who rarely paid attention to him, but it gave him some sort of attention.

The secon experience. I have seen tbis happenkng a lot. People noticed the bad behavior and/or are told about people but dont really want to to believe it? Because they haven't experienced anything, but people start to talk when they get hurt. I would say learn to be a bit skeptic with people. Dont give you all and the energy to try to be friends. Measure how much they give and do the same. Sometime, people, who are good and nice, dont notice tbat they are not being considerated to some people.

[The_Shang]

I've had a similar experience, OP. I made some (at least, I thought I did) close friends in this game. It was a friendship that went beyond FF, I trusted them with some very personal things about me. Our group even grew a little over the year or so we did stuff together. We played games other than FF and overall had fun.

Then, somewhere around new year's, 2 of them, that I knew were dating, just outright stopped talking to the rest. Silence on our linkshells, on our Discord chat, pretty much everywhere. They just started ignoring everything. It hurt me and another in the group in more ways than one, since up to that point we were talking pretty much every day and hanging out and such. Them suddenly doing a 180 was incredibly saddening.

In the end, me and that other friend ended up moving server in no small part due to that. Yes, there were other reasons, but because of all that building up we just didn't feel like our last server was a home to us. Coincidentally, that happened to be Moogle too. Now that I'm on Behemoth, in a new FC with incredibly fun people, I feel like I found my place again.

It's incredibly sad when you're so invested in a friendship only for that to fall apart for reasons you yourself don't know.

[Elim]

For your health and well being I suggest toughening up. Not joking or poking fun. Tells yourself NOT to dwell on negative subjects; all you're doing is needlessly hurting yourself. You could be happy. You can also use anger management tools for this. I know that sounds strange but they can work. Just google them or find a method that works for you.

[Stormfur]

There is a saying I try to remember when these things happen -- don't cross oceans for someone that wouldn't jump puddles for you.

[Rakiria]

Since we're all sharing our stories here i want to relieve myself too. I also met people in this game who hurt me because they were so important to me. One of them I talked to pretty much every day about how he's doing, how he didn't feel well in his fc, what other problems he had. He changed to my fc after a while and I thought things were getting better. But then, out of nothing, he left. Sent us a letter he went back to his fc, not even telling us a reason. He left the game soon after. He did return some day though, and told us why he left - it was a pretty silly reason. I wouldn't have minded half as much if he told me. He changed server now though, and i have no idea where he went.

I also met another person that actually made me change server. He was kinda nice at first, but soon started being awfully dramatic, leaving the fc over every little dispute just to come back a day later, and one day he actually deleted his character. Just to restore it the day after. He got more and more insensitive and i ended up kicking him for good. I thought that was it but, months later, he came by our house and tracked down an fc member while she was gathering and started talking to her. Since he was pretty awful to her too she just teleported away. And what could you even do when somebody is just standing at your house? He had no business there but it's not a reportable offence, so me and that other fc member just left the server... I miss the days when we were friends, but I'm glad about being as far away as possible from him.