Quote Originally Posted by otarolgam View Post
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1. Standing in the bad as a tank means your healers are having to heal you more instead of contributing dps to the party. STOP. PERIOD.

2. As long as your keeping flanks and rear open and in "safish" places for your dps to attack, you have done your part position-wise as tank.
Dodging AOEs is on them after that.

3. "mentor status..... despite the fact that I don't raid" - Accept that you may still have things to learn as a tank.

Your a tank, you make decisions and the party deals with the consequences. Sometimes it goes to hell and its your fault, sometimes its not your fault and you will still get blamed. You got kicked because you let your ego control your behavior sounds like. Next time, take the friendly aggro in stride. You are the tank after all.