Everyone really hates me for not be the best player

[whiteblade89]

On a serious note, if this game is causing you that much anxiety, it might be best for you to not play. I don't say that to be mean or insulting. MMO's require thick skin. I've seen people like you before who get anxiety just from going into dungeons. The fear of judgement from strangers keeps you from enjoying the game, so why play a game you can't enjoy? It's best to rid yourself of the things in life that hinder your enjoyment, and that includes games like this. Just my two cents. I mean no offense.

[Gilded]

I'm curious as to how far people's patience can go here.

@OP, I'm seeing words of encouragement and tips here, but in the end you're the only one who can begin the steps to improvement.

[MomomiMomi]

I'm curious as to how far people's patience can go here.

My patience is infinite!

...but I also have other things to do. Bye bye!

[dlgc]

Now, assuming you are not trolling and genuinely asking for help:

There is really only one issue that needs to be addressed before we can do anything else.

"Do you really want to be helped?"

Imagine that you are drowning, players are throwing ropes at you to pull you out of it, however it is ultimately up to you to grab hold of the rope to save yourself.

We can only help those who are willing to help themselves. Otherwise, everything we say/do is redundant.

Cheers,
D.

[Ama_Hamada]

So you are saying that 1 healer is enough for Alexander - The Cuff of the Son while i'm the useless healer who keep dying all the time and not heal and do dps?

yes and no. You said you played all 3 roles right? Just go in as w/e you are most comforable on while you have a friend or 2 go with you. No don't solo heal you made that part clear already that is an issue, that is why I said in my first post "Get a friend or 2 (preferably a healer that you know is skilled) and just have them walk you though it. If you are on dps, you alone can't wipe Alexander - The Cuff of the Son. You have to remember there is 7 other people in your group."

I do not know data centers where does Cerberus and balmung lie? (asking anyone not just to tc)

[YitharV2]

On a serious note, if this game is causing you that much anxiety, it might be best for you to not play. I don't say that to be mean or insulting. MMO's require thick skin.

I'll admit that this is actually me as well since I have social anxiety. That's why I generally tend to queue with a friend. It's far less stressful. I think though I'm at an okay anxiety level, considering I have wiped the whole raid in Weeping City on both tank and DPS (i was really tired at the time), so I know that sometimes crap just happens.

In a previous MMO, I think what happened is I just did dungeons enough with my friends to the point where I really knew what I was doing so I didn't feel any anxiety.

[YitharV2]

I do not know data centers where does Cerberus and balmung lie? (asking anyone not just to tc)

Cerberus is on Chaos. Balmung is on Aether.

http://arrstatus.com/

[MomomiMomi]

I do not know data centers where does Cerberus and balmung lie? (asking anyone not just to tc)

Balmung is Aether.
Cerberus is Chaos.

Ninja'd!

[Ama_Hamada]

Cerberus is on Chaos. Balmung is on Aether.

http://arrstatus.com/

Nice my server has the worst picture -.-
(also thanks momomi, ps, lol@quotefail)
EU server i see hmmm....................
(anyways this person tends to miss if on old page so)

yes and no. You said you played all 3 roles right? Just go in as w/e you are most comforable on while you have a friend or 2 go with you. No don't solo heal you made that part clear already that is an issue, that is why I said in my first post "Get a friend or 2 (preferably a healer that you know is skilled) and just have them walk you though it. If you are on dps, you alone can't wipe Alexander - The Cuff of the Son. You have to remember there is 7 other people in your group."

gtg

[Transient_Shadow]

In all honesty the DPS community in this game is Toxic. I hate using that word but its true. I've asked for help several times on my build only to be ridiculed for things that are "common knowledge" to older players when I've only been playing for a short time now. Your not the problem they are. Just do your best and try to find a friendly player who can show you the ropes of your job.

People like to talk shit if your not already at ilvl 270 but thats just not reasonable. And neither are big pulls or speed runs anymore. The devs are phasing those out and hopefully the toxic players with them.