A Heartfelt Post To This Community That I Am A Part Of.

[micropanther7]

Everyone says to reach out and what not....but what do you do when reaching out has been met with nothing but ignorance?
What if those few people who definitely COULD help you just decide not to?


Then what? Am I still supposed to think how much they care?

I think those of us who have posted in this thread, and who have dealt with mental illness, with family and with myself, there are people like that, who find it hard to understand or relate to what you're going through. As I've got older, I've found that people who will stick by you, understand (and even give you tough love if necessary), aren't always family. The people who mind, don't matter, and the people who matter, don't mind... there ARE people who care, one sinks so deep it's like you become blind to who gives a toss. I'm speaking from my own experiences here, when I attempted and thankfully failed to take my own life, I learnt hard lessons that day on how it can affect others and myself.

To the OP and everyone else who has posted, thank you for sharing such a brave and heartbreaking post, so many thoughts and feelings I'm experiencing from reading your words and others in this thread, that I'm not sure what to say. My sincerest condolances for your loss, and it is very true, we do matter to someone.

[Synrin]

As I've got older, I've found that people who will stick by you, understand (and even give you tough love if necessary), aren't always family.

Not necessarily friends either. One of my co-workers on her way back from lunch came across a guy having a panic attack in the street. Sat down with him, talked to him, got him a bottle of water. And she stayed with him until he felt better.

Reaching out for professional help is sometimes also needed. In some cases an educated person can do much more than your average 'ignorant friend'. Care doesn't equal knowledge.

[Faliandra]

I think those of us who have posted in this thread, and who have dealt with mental illness, with family and with myself, there are people like that, who find it hard to understand or relate to what you're going through. As I've got older, I've found that people who will stick by you, understand (and even give you tough love if necessary), aren't always family. The people who mind, don't matter, and the people who matter, don't mind... there ARE people who care, one sinks so deep it's like you become blind to who gives a toss. I'm speaking from my own experiences here, when I attempted and thankfully failed to take my own life, I learnt hard lessons that day on how it can affect others and myself.

Maybe its your failed attempt, that made people wake up and realize whats going on though. Maybe then they only realized how bad it is?
Maybe this wasnt just a lesson for you but also for everyone else around you which led to a change for the better?
So basically, just because I still laugh, people tend to think that "it cant be that bad".

Reaching out for professional help is sometimes also needed. In some cases an educated person can do much more than your average 'ignorant friend'. Care doesn't equal knowledge.

While I kind of agree, I also know from first-hand experience how many people just try to make money off you by subscribing you things.

And I really cannot agree more with this statement,because its as true as it gets:

Also, it's good to be aware: depression and suicide can be something that is a result from your brain chemistry. Sometimes prescriptions can "cure" you. It won't for people like me, who have reasons haunting them.

Prescriptions wont magically cure you, if the source of your issues dwells somewhere else. In fact, I believe that in some circumstances these prescriptions can even make the issue worse.
But these "professionals" often seem to think they know BETTER than yourself just because they studied that subject and try to pressure you into doing something you do not WANT(because you KNOW it wont help).

I'm sure an objective, neutral look on the issue from an outsider and some knowledge CAN bring some useful insight...but I hate it when people think they can DECIDE what's the cause of my issues
without trying to understand my reasoning of things. Because that's something that just ends up dragging you even DEEPER into your depression. And it truly did.