Warning about handing out wedding invites

[ErryK]

I think a lot of people are overreacting either way.

[Settiesama]

We don't need them to add a kick option to it. How about people use the invitations as they were intended instead? Give to friends, FC and LS members. If you want the event to be special, keep the people you know and trust, ones who want to be there for you and your other half. If you're having one of those wild anything goes weddings, then invite the randoms for an even wilder wedding, but trying to have a sensible wedding here where people follow your expectations, is not going to be likely with people you don't know. It 'can' happen, but more likely you're going to get some bad eggs

[Sil3ntxR3qui3m]

I'm kinda more on the side of you shouldn't have invited randoms. Yes there are plenty of times where people are nice and everything goes well, but you are taking the risk of things going bad by inviting people you don't know. I believe that if you think someone is going to be unruly at your wedding, don't invite them. I figure that's probably what SE would say about it as well. I've had a couple of my own weddings be just me, the groom, and a couple of friends. Took some nice screenshots and everything looked great. It was very peaceful. Hell, even my irl wedding was like that. Saved money to spend at Disney World. XD

You invite randoms, you take that risk. People suck sometimes.

[Just-Communication]

There really is no excuse for the guests to behave as they did, and it does equal harassment. Whether they were strangers or not, whether they were invited in a city or via a tell.

And the saddest of all is that people in this thread have started behaving just as those wedding guests. And even worse, excusing such behaviour under the 'everyone does it, it's just how it is' flag.

No, that is not how it should be, and we should not allow it. As I have said before, there should be a way to deal with individuals who make your gaming experience a hell. From stalkers to plain asses.

Every post you've made in this thread is disingenuous. You purport to support constructive feedback, yet have only expressed disdain for opinions you disagree with, providing no evidence that you have taken any tangible steps to resolve the perceived issue. You want others to keep their mouth shut when you will not.

The OP learned his lesson and decided to post a warning in the general discussion forum. Say it with me now: general discussion. Even if there are posts that - heaven forfend - disgust you, at least they are replying to the OP in an attempt to be relevant. You, on the other hand, are here to simply express your indignation at the responses.

Yet you have twisted and contorted those same responses to suit your narrative, ignoring the fact that a wedding is a private event and that those handing out invitations should bear some, if not all, responsibility. You want SE to hold your hand for when you make poor decisions, for an outcome that was well within your means to control?

Seriously.

Let me tell you what's sad. You sitting on your arse complaining about people's behaviour in a video game forum while families and refugees are starving out in the real world. Well, what are you waiting for, hero? Quit your subscription, go out there and start make a difference. That is, if you really care that much about how things should not be.

[Synrin]

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I said three times that they should implement a way to adress such harassing in an easy way, like a kick from the ceremony. At the same time this thread has been full of 'haha should've known better' towards OP which is essentially just rubbing salt into the wound. I don't find that okay or appropriate. Sorry I can take a stand instead of indirectly defending the guys who ruined OP's ceremony to begin with.

[Aeeninwen_Taldel]

It sucks that people have ruined something that should have been fun, but that is the risk involved when inviting random people. One would like to think that there aren't that many trolls on a game, but unfortunately there are a lot. Just as most of my dungeons I have done with DF have been bad experience with rude players, while some of my friends have had extremely amazing experiences with it. It's like a luck of the draw type thing. I'd expect if I ever did the eternal bonding quests that if I were to invite random people I'd get the same disrespect. However, I probably wouldn't even think very much about it.

I am open to inviting random people, however, regardless of the risk. Unless, of course, my best friend decides that she doesn't want that, then I will respect her wishes. haha

I think a lot of people are overreacting either way.

(I have to say, your signature amuses me)

[Khemorex]

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sadly , we cant just quit our jobs and go do something else , since we are slaves to the capitalist market , doing that would only make us starve ourself :O
no money no power :P

[Settiesama]

I said three times that they should implement a way to adress such harassing in an easy way, like a kick from the ceremony. At the same time this thread has been full of 'haha should've known better' towards OP which is essentially just rubbing salt into the wound. I don't find that okay or appropriate. Sorry I can take a stand instead of indirectly defending the guys who ruined OP's ceremony to begin with.

There is a way to prevent harassment in the wedding; don't invite people you don't know. It is that simple.

[Vulcwen]

Some of the people around here would defend that a thief would have right to steal a bike that's not locked, or steal everything from someone's house after being invited for whatever reason.

There are ways you can prevent bad things from happening, but that doesn't mean the culprits have the slightest rights to harass people. If you are invited you're supposed to behave like a proper guest, otherwise you have nothing to do there.

[Settiesama]

Some of the people around here would defend that a thief would have right to steal a bike that's not locked, or steal everything from someone's house after being invited for whatever reason.

There are ways you can prevent bad things from happening, but that doesn't mean the culprits have the slightest rights to harass people. If you are invited you're supposed to behave like a proper guest, otherwise you have nothing to do there.

Not one person in this thread has defended them. They were idiots yes, but you can't take the fault away from the OP for not expecting something like it to happen. They're both to blame. The only one not to blame here is SE, who people are trying to pit the blame on by telling them to fix it, when the intention of the invitations was to be for friends, not people you don't know.