Warning about handing out wedding invites

[Marcellus_Cassius]

If you say lesson learned haha you had it coming, you are on the road to being that person who trolls his brothers

[Venoshock]

So many of you are babbling about the truth. The truth? I just attended a wedding (literally 10 minutes ago) of a couple who was handing out their invitations in Gridania. I never saw either of them before, had no clue who the guests were.... But guess what, everyone was nice, and nothing bad happened. No bad emote spams, skill spams... Nothing, it was lovely despite all the new strange faces.



If you have nothing nice or constructive to say it may be more worth to keep your mouth shut. Obligatory congrats to the lovely couple on Cerberus, hope you have a lovely time together!

You went to one wedding out of hundreds that have had guests which are strangers to the host. Your one example does not prove anything as you haven't attended every open-door wedding on ff14. I wouldn't go as far as saying the majority of players are assholes but they do exist, and when you have an open-door wedding or just open-door policy to anything in life (don't even go there! lol) anything can come in, good or bad because nothing is perfect.

It's why invitations exist which is weird as those bad apples were technically invited but only because to attend a wedding on ff14 you need an invitation (irl with open-door weddings, you just walk in). Locks work in this way too.

[ManuelBravo]

Would you invite people of the streets to a real live wedding? Same rule of common sense applies but you had it coming.

[Naunet]

Waaaaay to much energy in this thread being directed at being critical of the OP. How about you all turn that energy toward criticizing the people who actually behaved like two year olds with zero self-control, or requesting SE provide a means of kicking people from a wedding event?

Piling on the OP for expecting a little bit of common decency is not helpful.

[Gaj85]

are you not bothered at all that people are so crappy sometimes that they do stuff like this, when OP was just trying to be nice and get people a free minion if they wanted?

pretty sad that you can't do a friendly gesture. i'm sorry your wedding was ruined from it.

Why would anyone be bothered? He invited random people in an MMO to an event that I assume he wanted to be fun and run smooth. You don't have to be an MMO vet to know that if you don't know people in game, don't trust them.

[JumperX]

I can understand both groups POV. Why I understand because people need to realize that the majority of people (worldwide) just point out the bad things. The majority of people don't learn to give good criticism. They just assume that magically the rest will know it.

people in the forums should mainly focus or say at first what solution they want in game and then mention why (their or others experience) I think that would make it easier for the mods to catch the problem and give it to the dev team and may be the executive office might hear it.

Unfortunately, like in real life, if you give invites to random people, they will throw it to the garbage can in front of you, don't take it from your hands, may be plan to ruin your activity to entertain their own OR be decent people and just do what you are supposed​ to do in the event. It is just like a ticket of lottery when it comes to random people. So yes a kick option could be helpful.

[Synrin]

There really is no excuse for the guests to behave as they did, and it does equal harassment. Whether they were strangers or not, whether they were invited in a city or via a tell.

And the saddest of all is that people in this thread have started behaving just as those wedding guests. And even worse, excusing such behaviour under the 'everyone does it, it's just how it is' flag.

No, that is not how it should be, and we should not allow it. As I have said before, there should be a way to deal with individuals who make your gaming experience a hell. From stalkers to plain asses.

[LalaRu]

Asking SE to let us able to kick out unwelcomed guests in order to deal with them, is much welcome. Yes you can report them but damage is done.

[Venoshock]

There really is no excuse for the guests to behave as they did, and it does equal harassment. Whether they were strangers or not, whether they were invited in a city or via a tell.

And the saddest of all is that people in this thread have started behaving just as those wedding guests. And even worse, excusing such behaviour under the 'everyone does it, it's just how it is' flag.

Ok, I have a big problem with this post right here. So far, only one post out of all the posts here could be considered immature or if you really wanted to stretch 'trollish'. All we've done is told it how it is; never trust people you don't even know especially on the internet. Which people like you have overreacted irrationally and called those perfectly reasonable responses 'disgusting' without really trying to understand what we're trying to say. You're either being intellectually dishonest or you really don't care what we have to say and putting your fingers in your ears and going LALALALALALA, especially as you haven't directly responded to anyone.

I mean what are we supposed to do? cuddle him and go 'awwww don't worry, i hope all those people we dont know gets banned'? or offer advise that could help him in the future like...i dunno 'trust no one'? come on. We're grown ups here and grown ups know that the world isn't all sunshine and rainbows.

Anyway to the OP. It's unfortunate that your wedding was ruined but you should know by now that when you invite randoms, things like this is a possibility. It's like trying to clear something like a12s on pf with randos you know nothing about. Bad things are a possibility (a large possibility considering playerskill on ff14 but i wont get into that lol).

Asking SE to let us able to kick out unwelcomed guests in order to deal with them, is much welcome. Yes you can report them but damage is done.

This i agree with. Take notes SE.

[YISUG]

speaking of weddings problems in-game
a friend wanted to invite me to his wedding after sending me a tell saying that my mail was full and he couldn't send the invite
i didn't free any space "i really forgot" few days later and 40min before the wedding as a duty poppes up he sent me a tell saying my wedding in 40 mins
so i finished 5 mins before the wedding i hurried to east shroud and sent him a tell that im outside "he was inside" he came out and handed me the invite and i went in
few moments later he sent me a tell saying that he cant get in
after trying few things the wedding was ruined and it was all my fault he couldn't get back in "i'm so sorry if you reading this its not enough how many times i apologize T_T"
cant this be fixed?