What is up with this toxic community

[Adire]

Maybe it cause I'm on Balmung but I have never found there to be a "wonderful community", but then again Balmung does have it reputation for a reason.

I have more bad things to say about Balmung's community than good things, personally. If they offered free transfers from it, I'd gladly go to a smaller server.

[Jim_Berry]

One other thing that has been bugging me is this constant need to pull till I reach a door or some barrier and then just AoE everything. I understand people would rather go quicker i to would like quick but C'mon.. baelsars very first pull and tanks just running straight to the door and no one focuses on archers and we all die.. a healers dream let me tell you. Guess who's fault it ends up being??

/rant. <3 u all!

The Archers are my priority. If they are killing your group, the tank is doing it wrong.

[Aniond]

SquareEnix gives you many options to get up. Whether its Beastman dailies/ Raid Finger / Savage Raids / EX Summons or grind. You can find a something that you want/like to do. The problem with WOW is - Best gear is only obtainable by Mythic Raids. The rest of gear and rewards are yanked from you.

I think naturally peope will flock here whether they are good or bad people.

[Sainya]

I will tell you now why. It's people that expect to clear content quickly without putting in the work. They don't want to form a static, they don't want to make friends, they don't want to put anything into the community. The second those people go away, is when the community will improve. Unfortunately, the difficulty level makes it so these types of players are grouped up with other newer players (To enable the newer to catch up) and they don't understand why the fellow player isn't clearing. they don't know they're new. Or don't care.

[Yukiko]

The Problem is grinding...
Its not the "normal" thing, because in FFXIV you have to grind Content (not just items or xp)...
When running 100 times the same dungeon to get 100 items, but you need 10.000 items for your aim then at some point you just get crazy and become toxic towards others because of pure frustration! There are even calculations where you will need "years" to accomplish achievements in FFXIV (For the Notes: If you play only this single content, no variation that whole years).

Its not the grinding itself, its the scaling and incredible stupid balancing around it. The reward is not worth it and instead of lowering the grind they just giving insane rewards. Out of frustration players quit, but those few who burn out can get it...

[AnaviAnael]

I've only ever played on Japanese data centers, so I wasn't aware of that. Wow, that is surprising. I thought everyone knew the policy of B group main tanking and A and C doing add control/extra mechanics.

Trust me, on Aether you're lucky to find a tank willing to be main tank. Even when MT dies, it's a Christmas miracle to have one of the other two actually pick up the boss.

Anyway back on topic...

What kills me is that the most toxic players I've played with aren't even good. If you're gonna start cussing people at least pull your own weight.

I've encountered this so many times that my friends and I often joke that the ones who yell the loudest are upset because they couldn't get carried.

[Voltyblast]

Can relate: I just got harassed and kicked from a dungeon yesterday because they couldn't wait for me, the tank, to finish a single aggro combo, resulting in the dps pulling and dying twice (we wiped on first boss). The result was them (I think only one did not) harassing me, offending me and kicking me because I was "whining". Mind you that I never offended, nor attempted to troll or anything: i simply asked them, kindly too, to let me finish my first rotation and I told them to stop or kick me (with warning ensue). I got them reported anyway.

But to be fair I had all sorts of troubles in this game because of the community: heck it's also why i don't use my main toon in the forums, at least not right off the bat, because of a friend who got harassed ingame from the forums and so I took his advice. On top of that I can't seem to even criticize the game nor anything like that and it's a shame because I do kinda like the game, even if it lacks content, but if only had less of an elitistic community...

I mean I remember being "brutally" offended because I simply did not like the music track of Temple of Qarn HM, telling me that "I have no taste in music"...how is this the best community that everyone claim to be again?

[Bourne_Endeavor]

Maybe it cause I'm on Balmung but I have never found there to be a "wonderful community", but then again Balmung does have it reputation for a reason.

See, I'm the exact opposite. I have met some incredibly nice players on Balmung and very few outright toxic ones.

Can relate: I just got harassed and kicked from a dungeon yesterday because they couldn't wait for me, the tank, to finish a single aggro combo, resulting in the dps pulling and dying twice (we wiped on first boss). The result was them (I think only one did not) harassing me, offending me and kicking me because I was "whining". Mind you that I never offended, nor attempted to troll or anything: i simply asked them, kindly too, to let me finish my first rotation and I told them to stop or kick me (with warning ensue). I got them reported anyway.

Not that I agree with them harassing but... wait for your first rotation? Do you mean to imply not attacking until you've done a full aggro combo? If so, that's a mistake on your part. As a tank, you open with either your ranged aggro ability or aoe chain pull depending on what you're aiming to do. At lower levels, you'll want to spam your aoe aggro ability at least 2-4 times then rotate your combo between mobs.

[Mature]

I don't see that many anymore. Occasionally I see a delusional deluded pro wannabe tell everyone what to do or saying how much DPS he is doing. But this has become very rare nowadays. I'm guessing the kids are growing up.

Apart from that the community in Ultros seems pretty solid and friendly with a good base of friendly and helpful players.

[cougarel]

Rarely , but they are there. Like someone else said, the bad thing is that they don't even pull their weight , just start bashing x or y. If in the past i didn't say anything, in the last 2 weeks i had to take a stance towards this behavior, because if you're quiet they don't stop. It doesn't matter if it's not about me as I mainly heal or tank, but I can see if someone is doing or not doing specially my party members .
What it's baffling is that instead of providing helpful inside, they only bash the player and stop doing their rotations just to write their vomit on chat.
But hey, overall on Cerberus we have decent and nice players, the other ones will be set aside eventually.