These forums need to stop.

I'm not disagreeing with what you wrote, but the context is completely wrong. I came back to FFXIV after almost a two year break(best gear in game was ilvl 70/80?) My very first dungeon the tank pulls massive amounts of adds. I barely keep him alive. After it's done (very first pull) he calls me out. Telling me to dps more.

What you are writing about is eventually true. Healers should help do damage if they can afford it, but they need to make that choice. The mentality you are creating is idiocy.

Don't be an elitist. Don't make this game toxic. Healers will come to that conclusion naturally, and it's important they do. Forcing them to take risks, making them feel inadequate and possibly forcing wipes before they are confident isn't a good thing. And you might say you didn't mean for this to target new people- but it does.