Not everyone is a quick learner. Me personally, I am. I know some people who simply aren't though, and that's fine. They take longer to figure things out. But no one likes being criticized along the way as they learn.
And sure, overall DPS is higher with death blossom. But you (tank) have to sustain dmg for longer period of time for all to die at the same time. Cause while you get high DPS on a parser, you're not actually killing anything. When simply taking one out quickly will also lower your incoming dmg. Now, i did forget you were a WAR, so the 3 AoE's combined, true, that is a decent combo. But regardless, I still don't think you were very accommodating honestly. Just asking if they wouldn't mind doing a Doton, then focus on death blossom would have been easy to ask for. But you guys decided to rip on her playstyle (well, mostly your gf). If I played with you (and you thought you were doing fine) and I suddenly said, "Hey! You suck, do everything better this way" I'm pretty sure you'd of gotten defensive as well. Giving advice and telling someone they're bad are 2 different things.
Once again, I'm not saying YOU were in the wrong here with how you worded things. Your healer on the other hand might as well have been holding a big "You suck, I hate you" sign above her head though. You decided to side with your healer/gf (don't blame ya) but what started out as helpful advice turned into ripping a player apart who doesn't know the class 100% yet.
Though, side note, does Death Blossom do "slashing" dmg? I would assume yes, but just thought about that. Never tested to see if it was actually increasing dmg for my death blossom's (Cause I honestly don't use it that much, Katon is more useful imo). And technically a well placed sneak attack would provide the highest potency at 500, but then if you put into the fact that a trick attack gives dmg vulnerability for 10 seconds, you can easy take HUGE advantage of that (and I usually focus on that). Combined with DE (prior to hitting with trick attack) and then timing with duality and dream within a dream (and aoelian edge), you'll produce FAR more damage. That enemy will practically be dead. I can take a good chunk of a boss's hp with this combo, let alone a trash mob target.








