I originally come from Gilgamesh. I'm familiar with AKS and a number of people in that FC. They're not a progression FC. They're a social FC. While that's fine and all, being a part of AKS is not an indicator of player skill. I only transferred to Tonberry a few months ago because the server was more active during my playing hours.
So, to address your point as a whole, let me just tell you the difference between the two servers, a difference that is at the core of the NA vs. JP discussion happening recently.
Your mentality where "I get to play the way I want to, screw you and your advice" is at the core of why the NA DF and PF scene is floundering. Rather than embrace a communal and mutual respect, you embrace rugged and selfish individualism. When someone tells me I'm not doing something right, I listen. I don't outright reject what they say as false unless I truly know it to be so or dismiss it on the pretense of selfishness. Is that so foreign a concept? They aren't disrespecting me by telling me I'm gearing my character wrong. If what they say is the truth, then they're trying to help.
And so, you talk about the social aspect of the game. How is it social to be so stubborn and close-minded that you so readily reject anything but your own views of the game and how it should be played? How is it social to be so selfish and individualistic? How does it help the overall community when you refuse to be a better player because screw other people? How does it help anyone to foster an environment where mediocrity is the norm? How is it that such a stance is killing an entire social system of the game if it's supposed to indicate positive social behavior?
And so you look at the DF and PF situation on JP servers. Because people know how to play their classes the optimized and effective way through this mutual process of learning, you have less drama and toxicity and more time to spend on the things that matter -- the actual content and the positive social interactions within. Because more people are actually proficient at their role, even when you get a few people who are less proficient, it doesn't cause any drama because you still clear casual and mid-core content just fine. Instead of spending your time flaming each other over who is doing what wrong, you can spend your time having fun. Why? Because everyone respects everyone's time on equal terms.
But no, screw other people. I pay the same subscription fee as them so screw them.