I don't find players friendly.

[Jamillion]

I'm on mobile so I can't see which server you're on but if it's Lamia feel free to add me and I'll show you what I can and help you queue

[Garotte14]

I've been there. Went into a party finder for T5 back in the day and met some cool ppl. Five of them were from the same FC. I ended up joining the FC and turns out it was really big. After 3 weeks of getting ignored and talked down to by everyone except the 5 I met in PF, I had to leave. I got nothing but sarcastic remarks and never got an ounce of help while trying to catch up on content. It didn't bother me too much, I just left and found a much better fit for me.

[kuma_aus]

There are many FCs that you will enjoy and many you won't enjoy. Too many people feel like they have an obligation to a FC that they join. You don't. It's nice if you give a FC at least a week to see how it is, but if during that weeks time you find out that you dislike the FC for what ever reason, just leave and try another. Find a FC you enjoy and stick with it.

[Whiteroom]

It's all in finding the right FC at the right time.

For example, my FC was a laid back crafting fc for the most part. A few of us would run more advanced content, but it was never the focus. A lot of decisions were made on a whim as people all had played with each other for awhile and knew what the others could put up with.

Then came Heavensward and a huge influx of new members, and we were just getting an FC semi-static off the ground as well. We even had people mass exit other guilds for ours. So we had the new static clique, a couple of other new fc cliques, and other single players and old members as well. Everyone was busy with leveling and learning, and despite attempts to keep people happy, things came to a head quickly. We had members pissed that people who had joined after them (like a week) were promoted before them (it can be easy to notice people who help in areas your interesting in, while passing over others who play the game much differently). Others feeling left out and ignored. Others who wanted the static to help them clear, but wouldn't even try in runs like T5 as they knew that they didn't have too.

Things got out of hand and we (the leadership council) had to spend a good chunk of a weekend discussing everything and reorganizing the fc from the ground up, to keep from imploding.

Point is, look around at your FC, is it suffering from growing pains? Which people are you asking for help? and what help? If it is someone who is always on and aloof, they are the problem. If it is the guy who just worked a 12 hour shift and wants a quick daily before bed, maybe think before asking for dungeon runs. If you look at the FC list, and everyone online is in a Raid, that may be why they aren't answering. If everyone is sitting around doing nothing, and not helping, gtfo of that FC. Also, if you are getting sarcastic answers to reasonable questions, get out. We have had to openly state to our people that if you don't get a response right away, just chill a bit, maybe they are afk, maybe they are in a battle, maybe they don't know.

I figure a lot of FCs are suffering from the influx from HW, unless they have limits on how many can join. Just look around and evaluate the fc. Remember everyone there is a person behind the monitor with a life (regardless of how much of one) happening.

That's fairly jumbled, and I hope it came out right, I'm very tired... but I had written most of it down before I realized how tired I was. Hope it makes some sense. Guess I'm saying:
You are getting a lot of the "Easy Answers" that you tend to get on forums. "Oh, dick FC get out!" and "Poor you" stuff. Maybe they are right and maybe they are wrong, you are the one who can actually see whats going on and know if its right or not.

Rule of thumb: Never, ever go into a blind invite FC! You don't build a family with a revolving door!

Another example: Someone joined when I wasn't on. They are a fresh recruit. They spent a lot of time chatting in FC with people yesterday, and the FC leader played with them for more than an hour to get their chocobo. Today, they didn't get an answer to some question right away, and all of a sudden FC chat is getting "I quit fc or should I stay..."

[Chiramu]

You're on Siren so I can't offer a spot in my FC OP , but look for a smaller FC. Large FCs are active in certain ways but they also don't care about the individuals. See how you do in a smaller FC, small FCs can't raid as easily together but if you're looking for a group of friends they are a LOT better.

Large FCs for people who don't care imo .

[Magicmike]

I too am new. Playing on a ps4 and enjoying this game too much. Yes i too came from wow. But after not playing for a year really wanted something different, well its similar and so different. I am the same i joined a fc from a blind invite and it is so quiet no one even says anything.
Its lonely and really boring i think im gonna leave that fc and fly alone no one helps etc. if its not right its not right i just wanna see some chatter. Mind u i only play weekends but so far have seen nothing but a couple of people logging in and out. And im in aus on a us server so probs not too many on. Message its pretty easy to go alone without help the more u play the easier it gets and find some people who will help u id ditch those ten year olds in two seconds in ure fc

[Zephrey]

Looks like you need to change FC, look on Siren's forums and find a free company that is more interesting and suitable for you.

Also, blind invite FC's are never ideal. First of all, it's completely rude. Second of all, chances are everyone else is blind invited as well and chances are they don't have a common goal. Meaning, you'll most likely not get too many people wanting to do or help in the things that you're doing.

[Twilite]

Joining a group (and this applies to any game or similar) of friends that already know each other... occasionally, it can be great. If they are very welcoming. Most aren't, they just want to talk to people they already know.

Which has been the primary thing working against me in making meaningful friendships. You're at a disadvantage with people who have established friendships.

[Zephrey]

Which has been the primary thing working against me in making meaningful friendships. You're at a disadvantage with people who have established friendships.

Most free companies, unless you build on from scratch or its brand new will have these sort of friendships. You could always do what I did and force your way into these "cliques" takes a bit of effort but it's 100% possible. That's how a friend of mine for 10 years met. He wanted to do stuff, so he went and did everything with people he found interesting. He made sure if there was something happening, he was being apart of it. Some people wait to be personally invited to do things, other people ask to join. And ask to participate. Those are the kinds of people that tend to get further in a "clique" type group.

I have a "clique" and I constantly invite people outside of said clique to join. Constantly welcoming, constantly asking if they want to come along. It can be tiring, especially when later down the line they say things like, "They don't feel welcomed." When I see a person log on and I say, "Hey! We've been waiting to see you get on! Wanna do stuff with us?" and then weeks later they say they're unwelcomed. I don't know, I think some people try to purposely try to avoid other people with friends, and think of every reason not to join them. Or be apart of their "group" because it was already once established.

Some cliques are very welcoming, if you're willing to work on a friendship just as much as they try to. Some people just don't want to, or come up with every excuse not to because they feel they "can never fit in" when that's never always the case.

[MikotoMina]

I was in the same boat as you. and I can't say I've officially gotten out of that boat. A couple people have helped me learn along the way, and actually met my husband and he helped me. If he hadn't , I wouldn't be as progressed as I am today. Most fc's are cliquey and don't care about you at all. Sadly, this is the case. I often get ignored as well, for literally no reason. It seems like most fc's are the same.