The issue nobody wants to address

[Priya]

THIS is literally the problem I have with your mentality.
Putting EFFORT into how they PLAY.
I don't know when you last checked, but originally the point of a game was to have fun.
Of course, you can't be completely lazy and do nothing and I totally encourage people to learn about their class or take a pointer about things they might be doing wrong, but by the point you spend more EFFORT on your GAME than on a dayjob, sit over possibilities and spreadsheets for weeks and test on thousands of monsters if skill 1 or skill 2 deals 0.002 more dmg than the other in the long run, you probably should think about getting your priorities straight.

I think people are equating gaming more to being part of a sports team than spreadsheets. One doesn't show up to one's soccer/football(american)/softball game or practice lacking the proper equipment and/or a bit of knowledge about the rules, and then proceed to just kinda mill about the field picking at the grass and ignoring plays. That's not being a team player.