Pretend cat girls, and real life.

[AmewKitsune]

Don't we play games like this to escape our real lives/world and run to worlds like this? The hell people, quit ruining our fun. We already get enough of that from min-maxers turning this game and others like it into a bastard child between Calculus and Statistics.

I agree with you. Come on people, it says it in the title that it's Final FANTASY.

[Etienn]

I agree with you. Come on people, it says it in the title that it's Final FANTASY.

YEAH BUT YOU INTERACT WITH REAL LIFE PEOPLE, YOU MAKE CONNECTIONS. Nothing more, and nothing less.

[Mikita]

I'm going to chime in here and state this seems to be mainly an american problem.

Interesting topic, and I didn't plan on chiming in -- but the international aspect gave me something to say.

This whole thing is definitely not an issue among Japanese players.
Most people here have a "don't tell" and even "don't want to know" unspoken policy.

I guess you could call it role playing on a massive scale, but all of the people I know just accept each other as who they are in Eorzea.

Not one person has asked me about my personal IRL details -- ever.
I don't think it's apathy; More like respect for another person's privacy and choices.

...

I'm female and I play as a Miqo'te.
I don't flirt, and I pretty much just behave as "me".

But one day in January I was wearing a Vintage Senechal Coatee while crafting.
An English-speaking friend commented that I looked like I was ready for Valentines Day, which was fine as a joke.
Another person in their LS who I didn't know said, "she just wants gil," and then a Trade offer came (which I didn't accept).
... That was probably the single most insulting thing that has ever happened to me in FFXIV and really tarnished my image of that person.


It's fine to think what you want about other players.
I don't care if people assume I'm a male playing a Miqo'te.

But I hope people will lay off the snide comments and insults.
Those can only serve to get you a bad reputation.

[AmyRae]

Every time I see this thread title come up, I think it's advocating that only RL cat girls should play Miqo'te. Fuzzy cat ear hairbands and fake tails don't count!

[Gulkeeva]

Nothing wrong with catgirls irl

http://imageboard.neko-sentai.com/_i...0acc348914.jpg

[Kishe]

Internet rule #1: When on internet, it's important to remember that Men are boys, women are men and children are FBI agents.

Seriously though, I'm a guy IRL and I pick my chars by not what gender they are but by what looks nicest...if i'm going to spend multiple hours a day staring at my screen i better like what i'm looking at. Internet is full of free porn so I got no interest in videogame characters like that.

[Ashaylin]

But one day in January I was wearing a Vintage Senechal Coatee while crafting.
An English-speaking friend commented that I looked like I was ready for Valentines Day, which was fine as a joke.
Another person in their LS who I didn't know said, "she just wants gil," and then a Trade offer came (which I didn't accept).
... That was probably the single most insulting thing that has ever happened to me in FFXIV and really tarnished my image of that person.

It's fine to think what you want about other players.
I don't care if people assume I'm a male playing a Miqo'te.

But I hope people will lay off the snide comments and insults.
Those can only serve to get you a bad reputation.

Wow. I'd be tempted to jumpkick him.

Rule of thumb is, just don't assume anything.

[OJtheLIONKing]

But one day in January I was wearing a Vintage Senechal Coatee while crafting.
An English-speaking friend commented that I looked like I was ready for Valentines Day, which was fine as a joke.
Another person in their LS who I didn't know said, "she just wants gil," and then a Trade offer came (which I didn't accept).
... That was probably the single most insulting thing that has ever happened to me in FFXIV and really tarnished my image of that person.


It's fine to think what you want about other players.
I don't care if people assume I'm a male playing a Miqo'te.

But I hope people will lay off the snide comments and insults.
Those can only serve to get you a bad reputation.

I know a good place in Mor Dhona where you can bury his corpse. Don't worry, no one will miss him.

I'm a bit the opposite of a lot of folks, I usually play a male character that's as close to me as possible (except taller >_>) because rather than role playing as another character, I like to pretend that I myself exist in the world. I don't fault anyone for playing opposite gender, especially girls who get tired of being hit on, but I'm not fond of folks lying either. I've had people in my FFXI LS lying outright about their RL gender for years, and all it did was cause them a lot of headaches and cause some frustration in others. It caused me a headache too because I had to keep that secret for over a year after I found out. I think it's fine if you don't want to talk about it, but not fine to lie about it.

That said, I assume every mithra/miqo'te I meet is a man until proven otherwise. This policy has worked surprisingly well over the years. I think most female mithra players understand why I make that assumption too, as they don't seem too mad about it when it comes up. I've run into only a few elvaan/hume female guy players by comparison. It's only natural when you have these dumb single sex races, so I'm looking forward to the new additions coming with the PS3 version. Despite this assumption, I don't do anything insulting like that, because an assumption isn't the same as knowing the truth, and that's just disrespectful. I only tease people I know well because I know their feelings won't get hurt, and even then not something like that.

[Nabiri]

This whole thing is definitely not an issue among Japanese players.
Most people here have a "don't tell" and even "don't want to know" unspoken policy.

I guess you could call it role playing on a massive scale, but all of the people I know just accept each other as who they are in Eorzea.

Not one person has asked me about my personal IRL details -- ever.
I don't think it's apathy; More like respect for another person's privacy and choices.

I really wish more people were like this. XD No one needs to know whether I'm a guy or girl irl unless we're going to get to know each other IRL. People could think I'm an "it" for all I care. When I'm on a male char, I wouldn't be offended being called "he" and on a female char, call me "she."
But I've never really liked when people ask for personal details. It's no one's business unless I want to tell.

In the past I used to tell people who I was because I just liked being open about it. But... I ended up meeting quite a few creepy people and harassment/online stalking issues started and it really hurt my ability to trust people in game (especially when it was people who I considered good friends, and had known for a few years). I have a hard time opening up to people in games now. Those harassment issues I had would not have happened if those people didn't know my sex irl.
I think as for right now, I'm happiest with people in game not knowing. (I know I've plainly said on the forums that I'm female, but I don't tell people when on my chars. Isalyn isn't a char I play often, so doesn't matter that she shows on here. XD)
I won't trick anyone into thinking I'm one or the other, but if someone asks, I'll let them know that I'd rather not say, and they can call me by what my char is. If we decide to get to know each other irl later, then perhaps I'll be more open.
I just don't feel as safe as I used to when I've had so many game and RL friends betray me in the past 3 years.

[Jynx]

It's not much of a "Don't ask don't tell" thing for me. It's more of a "Don't care" thing.

If I get to know the person well enough the truth will wander out eventually, I don't look for relationships online in general beyond being friends anyways. If someone is really adamant about hiding their gender then thats no issue with me.