At the end of the day, only you can determine where you play. So if you're truly unhappy with your server, then don't stay just because people who already don't interact much with you (if I'm understanding what you wrote correctly) ask you to. They have to give you a reason to stay and actually play with you. Or at least chat with you. I would advise you make alts first in potential servers to get a feel for what the community is like should you decide you'd like to move.

As for meeting more folks: just take it one step at a time. Something as simple as making yourself say "Hi" at the start of dungeons can open up a lot of surprising interactions. More often than not people won't talk, but I've had entire silent parties become chatterboxes just because we greeted each other. Or one of us danced while waiting for someone to finish a cutscene.


This next idea might sound odd, but have you also considered looking in the marriage thread for an EB partner? A lot of people in that thread aren't searching for anything romantic. They just want to find someone they can reliably play with and expand their friendship circle. Which sounds right up your alley. Crazy thought, but you never know. That could also lead to finding a good server/FC to join too.