Game is not very social to me wether in a FC or not

[ruskie]

Is it me, or is the most annoying "look at us" conversation when FC members ...

Sometimes it's just plain laziness of switching chats. But that can be annoying - if FC chat is actually active.

No wait, it's the "verified" female player exploiting ...

Why we don't care about the gender. We help all members with what we can depending on resources available(that includes materia, crafting, etc...). As for clears other than a few players we know won't be raiding in the general population, you have to work on it just like everyone else.

No wait, it's the incessant "I'm the offspring of the RNG gods" item linking ...

If you get sometihng you were after I am happy for you. If you are just linking for the sake of linking a random drop then it's just annoying.

A FC is more than a glorified chat channel that everyone is treating it as. It's a collection of people. Interact with them, accept them for what they are, help each other, make those bonds between each other. And don't lose them because someone moves to a different FC, have a LS that you can invite them to along with other FCs/friends/people you meet in a PF that you would like to to see again etc...

[Twilite]

Yes we should have a choice to socialize however I think some people can easily choose the anti social route on a whim because they already friends. Speaking from experience don't take your friends for granted because you never know when they'll be gone forever. A world of one is a hard one to escape. And all the 'I don't need anybody' walls you put up won't hold long.

[ruskie]

Yes we should have a choice to socialize however I think some people can easily choose the anti social route on a whim because they already friends. Speaking from experience don't take your friends for granted because you never know when they'll be gone forever. A world of one is a hard one to escape. And all the 'I don't need anybody' walls you put up won't hold long.

*bow* A thousand likes for you and then some.

[LunaHoshino]

The game is as social as you make it. I enjoy socializing, and as a result I've built up a sizable friend list and multiple linkshells. You can't sit around waiting for people to approach you and ask to be friends, though-- you need to put in the effort to chat with others, offer to help out with things, etc. The more you initiate, the more you'll get in return.

[Veji]

salty ppl

Not all people are like that. Some realize that an FC is a team.

[randysquirrel]

Maybe is a cultural thing. I treat chat like I treat travelling on the subway - if someone I don't know speaks to me, natural instinct is "omg someone spoke, could be a psycho, don't speak, don't make eye contact, pretend you haven't heard or seen them"

[AlexanderThorolund]

The game is as social as you make it.

Absolutely! True in game and in life. If you want people to talk to you and to gain friends you can't wait for them to come to you.
However we do live in a different world to the one our parents grew up in. When my parents were my age you would go into a shop and everyone would know each other and you could talk to anyone. Now days, due to the internet and our preoccupation with technology we've become quite an isolated generation.

There seems to be this feeling among people today that if someone doesn't say hello to you then they don't like you, which isn't true.

It's a very difficult situation in where if one person feels like this and the other person feels the same, you have a deadlock. At some point though someone has to break the cycle and interact with another person. You become happier for it! No one should feel lonely in this world!

[Priya]

Maybe is a cultural thing. I treat chat like I treat travelling on the subway - if someone I don't know speaks to me, natural instinct is "omg someone spoke, could be a psycho, don't speak, don't make eye contact, pretend you haven't heard or seen them"

Whaaaaa!? But that's the fun of it! "Hmmm. Is this internet stranger a crazy person? I'm not sure... Let's find out... I'll just pretend I need to go take my slippers out of the toaster if things get awkward."

At least in FF you can't smell them.

Alternatively, just wave a hand and let them know you're not the player they're looking for.

[Kallera]

I have trouble discussing the game in real life, I don't want to seen as some sort of hermit. I guess its no surprise that it doesn't feel like I've gained anything in RL since I've started playing. I'm not sure whether I'd be happier talking about the game to RL people, or just leaving it to the internet so that if I have to escape it its easier.

Any particular approach to making RL connections with the game? Or is it safer to not?

[Priya]

I have trouble discussing the game in real life, I don't want to seen as some sort of hermit.

Any particular approach to making RL connections with the game? Or is it safer to not?

Easy. When asked what pastimes or hobbies you enjoy, be honest. Loading up a game at the end of the day isn't any different than going home after work and throwing on Dancing with the Stars (except you're actually doing something). Haters gonna hate, and normal people will either "that's nice, dear" or "orly? tell me moar." My office knows I prefer gaming to watching TV in the evenings; a few IT people are ex wow players. Hell, my grandma asks how my internet games are going when we speak, and she has no clue what they even are. The only judgemental folks are the ones who never left high school and haven't learned just how little the world cares what you do in your off time.

Also, other players are humans, too. You're not exactly alone.