Game is not very social to me wether in a FC or not

[SarcasmMisser]

Is it me, or is the most annoying "look at us" conversation when FC members are in a instance party together but use FC chat to herald their accomplishments or discuss their current coil run?

No wait, it's the "verified" female player exploiting her sexuality by "pretty plz'n" her way to gil, clears, and free materia for her Zodiac. Oh, and free crafting too.

No wait, it's the incessant "I'm the offspring of the RNG gods" item linking in chat so we can all "grats" you into a false sense of self-worth and FC importance.

FC chat? You can have it.

This is probably the first game I've played where there's been an endemic amount of players who are incapable of feeling happy for others, and are permanently embittered and salty. It's crazy to me, in every other game I played when someone reached some sort of milestone you can tell others and they are generally happy for you, in this game there is a good chunk of players who could literally be the grinch.

Said players should not be surprised they are having trouble being social when they seem to lack the basic human empathy required to socialize. Seek a mental health professional if this is the case.

[DreadRabbit]

Like many have said, taking the initiative in being social goes a very long way. You don't even have to actually type any conversation. Doing something as silly as dancing while waiting for a Fate to spawn or /chuckle when someone else uses a /doze or some other emote lets everyone else know that you're free to chat.

Great place to find people to talk to is waiting for the Cactpot draws on Saturday. Seriously, just take a seat at one of the tables. As long as you don't have /away up, someone WILL sit at that table with you. And if you follow up with a wave or a "hi", conversation does start. And it spreads, quickly

[Caoihmin]

Triggered

Not all truth is puppies and rainbows Freud. Put down your "Everyone's Just Peaches" book and deal with it.

And if I choose to remove myself socially, in a VIRTUAL reality, from immature and unhealthy conversation spawned by those who find their sense of worth in a game, that's my prerogative. I have enough genuine gaming friends who share the same mindset that it allows me the freedom and privilege to do this.

And....that's my cartharsis. What's yours? Knee jerk replies because someone has offended your delusions? Pffft.

[Ooshima]

Not all truth is puppies and rainbows Freud. Put down your "Everyone's Just Peaches" book and deal with it.

And if I choose to remove myself, in a VIRTUAL reality, from immature and unhealthy conversation spawned by those who find their sense of worth in a game, that's my prerogative.

And....that's my cartharsis. What's yours? Knee jerk replies because someone has offended your delusions? Pffft.

I guess what you've said applies to yourself too lol.

[SarcasmMisser]

Not all truth is puppies and rainbows Freud. Put down your "Everyone's Just Peaches" book and deal with it.

And if I choose to remove myself, in a VIRTUAL reality, from immature and unhealthy conversation spawned by those who find their sense of worth in a game, that's my prerogative.

And....that's my cartharsis. What's yours? Knee jerk replies because someone has offended your delusions? Pffft.

I clearly hit a sore spot. Maybe one day you will learn the basics of socialization and stop blaming others for being happy.

[Dhex]

I unno I enjoy all the linkshells I'm in, and my Free Company is pretty active. Maybe it's the man in the mirror causing your woes?

[SarcasmMisser]

Argh these people are linking items they've gone at lengths to obtain and others are happy for them. This vexes me uncontrollably to the point that I withdrawal from social groups, but they are the unhealthy and immature ones.

[Ghastly]

By far the most damaging thing to FFXIV is this. Duty Finder makes the game feel like it's an instance-only game and not about people you can build long-lasting relationships with.

My wish is that they would an option to search in your server only so that the people you meet in Duty Finder you can keep in touch with and run future dungeons with.
There also needs to be a better goal-system which pits certain affiliations (Limsa affiliation, Uldah affiliation, guild affiliation) into partying up together.

The game has a bit too much freedom. A few restrictions to socialize would do wonders.
By far DF is what brings the game down the most. The game honestly already has millions of people already.

[Spawnie]

By far the most damaging thing to FFXIV is this. Duty Finder makes the game feel like it's an instance-only game and not about people you can build long-lasting relationships with.

i disagree entirely.. having played games with no duty finder type feature having to sit at first dungeon for hours spamming chats for parties is a pain in the backside duty finder feature in ff14 is great for lots of reasons

considerin that first dungeon normally only took 5 mins to complete so waitin hours n hours to get a party was extremely annoying so yeah 10 thumbs up to SE for adding duty finder to ff14 :3

[AskaRay]

The game has a bit too much freedom. A few restrictions to socialize would do wonders.
By far DF is what brings the game down the most. The game honestly already has millions of people already.

No thanks... I mean if that's what you want, then go ahead and put that restriction on yourself.
I've gotten better about this, but when I first started the game I was so shy I had my friend queue in any story dungeon with me. After my IRL friends stopped playing, I had to grow a pair and queue myself up. Even as a DPS I was so nervous, it was awful.
Imagine how hard that would've been for me (or anyone like this) if I had to actually go around on server off-time, actually going up to people/shouting for help? I'd still be level 20 or something.

...like I said, I've gotten better about it, no longer that shy or anything. But really even if I was the epitome of social mingling having a bunch of other servers to connect to during off-hours is amazing. There's maybe like five other people on my server when I play (exaggeration, ofc, but you get it) so connecting to those five other people awake on the other servers is great.

I don't want to be FORCED to socialized. If I choose to be an antisocial loner, that's my choice. If I wanna go out and talk to people, I will do that.