How would identify a female player guy/girl?

[Tsuga]

It's not really wrong for someone to wonder what your sex is. Why all of a sudden is it wrong to want to know this? Why is it so bad that I DON'T want to marry a girl toon being played by some male in reality?

Why do you need to know? If you're marrying someone in-game and you're close enough that their real life sex would matter, I'd think you would know at that point. If you weren't that close, why would you care what their gender is? Marrying in-game is not tantamount to a real life relationship.

No, I don't go around asking every female toon if they are a guy in real life, I just assume they are a guy in real life. Sometimes I'll come across a toon who gives off a feminine vibe and I might assume they are female, but not usually.

What is masculine? What is feminine? Your perspective seems to lean heavily on gender norms, which IS wrong.

It's not wrong to wonder about a player's gender, but I don't see why it would be significant enough to you to frame your perspective of every female in the game.

Yes, I find it odd when a guy plays a female toon. No, I don't judge them for it, hell my two best friends play female toons. I tell them all the time I find it odd, but it doesn't bother me! To each their own. There really is nothing wrong with wanting to know that female toon player you've been cyber hitting on is a male or not.

By calling it odd, you are judging them for creating and playing as a female character. Are they supposed to play as male so that you don't accidentally mistake them as female when you "hit on" them and then feel silly about making a mistake?