On this note, I've been seriously considering the idea that I'm addicted to FFXIV. I know people throw out the word "addicted" all the time to mean "I really, really like something" but in this case, I mean it literally. On patch day, I played for 17 hours straight and just felt terrible. My body hurt, I didn't eat or sleep right, nor have enough to drink. I feel compelled to do dailies/weeklies because of "efficiency" and I kill myself to do every stupid grind SE puts in front of me. I don't even feel like a person sometimes, just a rat pressing a button stimulating the pleasure center of my brain over and over until I die.
I've been doing some research on addiction lately and it seems like nearly any kind of addiction causes actual physiological changes in the brain. I feel like something like this has happened to me when I think about all the hours doing something unfun for some reward. Then I get the reward and it's like ding, ding, pleasure center lights up. It's even killed my enjoyment of other things. The good news is that I've read that life and your enjoyment of other activities can return after a time if you give up your addiction. Today I saw a professional about this and talking about my gaming habits made me admit what I've already known for a while, I have a problem.
I think I'm probably going to quit FFXIV and try to get well again. I'm not sure I can simply cut back as I've tried that before and end up back in the exact same boat. On the other hand, it's so difficult when I think about my FC and all my online friends and all the things I'll be missing, plus all the time I've put in. I guess it wouldn't be an addiction if quitting was easy
I think MMOs can be designed in a way that is less addictive (less emphasis on daily/weekly content, longer relevancy of gear, more reasonable "grinds") but sadly I think that addicted players are worth big bucks to developers.