Quote Originally Posted by Callinon View Post
No way to know for certain, but I'd bet that for every person who feels the need to harass someone until they leave a duty, there are probably 2 or 3 people out there who just want to help them do better without having to do so publicly and look like a jerk for helping.
If saying something would make you look like a jerk, that's a pretty good indication that saying it falls into the harassing category rather than the helpful category. Saying things that are genuinely helpful will just make you (and generally the person you're helping as well) look good to everyone involved. Just make sure that your "help" doesn't insult anyone.