Am I being elitist? Honest question.

[Arcell]

Depends on how you said it. Sometimes people that are trying to help come off as elitist because of how they word it. I do think there's nothing wrong with letting people figure out the mechanics on their own, though. It's what I do. I don't learn from watching videos or following tutorials for rotations. They do absolutely nothing for me. I learn by experience. Perhaps this guy was like that and the leader knew it. Perhaps the leader felt you were pushing the issue too much. Just say it once and then let them be.

Depends on what the party was set up for. If it was a stated learning party then yeah, learn by doing things and making mistakes. If it's stated as a win/farm party though you don't get to waste my time by figuring it out for yourself. I'm going to say something if I see someone consistently making mistakes. How nice that comes off can vary from day to day but I try to be understanding where possible.

[Diavolo]

Depends on what the party was set up for. If it was a stated learning party then yeah, learn by doing things and making mistakes. If it's stated as a win/farm party though you don't get to waste my time by figuring it out for yourself. I'm going to say something if I see someone consistently making mistakes. How nice that comes off can vary from day to day but I try to be understanding where possible.

I don't ever use party finder, so I never have this whole issue of "how the party was set up." I'm pretty sure, though, anyone with a brain between their ears wouldn't go into a party explicitly stating what it's for. This doesn't sound like this was the case. If someone consistently makes mistakes, I'll ask them if they know how the fight goes or if there's an area they are unsure about. I've found I've gotten a better reaction by letting them give their perspective than just assuming I know exactly what's wrong and giving them my two cents.