Ethics and Manners for FF14

[Chezen]

I don't do it because I expect (and require) anything back from them, I do it because it is the polite thing to do. I can understand some people wanting or expecting appreciation for doing something nice, but some people aren't like that unfortunately. But people can continue to be kind, maybe get a response and keep going with their day knowing they did something that helped a person regardless of if they were praised for doing it or not. Or people can become like them, stop doing it because their ego isn't being fluffed up and aren't getting their 'omg you helped me your so wonderful' praising attention which will make the community even worse.

I don't need someone to praise me to know I did a good deed, and please don't lump everyone together saying "no one in this game would do" whatever you think they wouldn't do. Maybe your server is like that, but I've met quite a few kind and helpful people on mine and I would in no way state that they were "the dregs of" whatever game they came from as you stated.. Nor would I say they none of them would not help someone if help was needed.

Can't tell you how good it felt to read that. I'd about given up seeing anyone with that kind of attitude on forums.

I'd like to add from my own point of view, even if someone is rude to me (particuliarly if it doesn't look intentional), I try to consider that they might have had a bad day, and give them the benefit of the doubt. Also, I was really shy growing up, so I consider that too.

[KaiKatzchen]

Can't tell you how good it felt to read that. I'd about given up seeing anyone with that kind of attitude on forums.

I'd like to add from my own point of view, even if someone is rude to me (particuliarly if it doesn't look intentional), I try to consider that they might have had a bad day, and give them the benefit of the doubt. Also, I was really shy growing up, so I consider that too.

Much appreciated... I don't know, helping people just seems the right thing to do. I help with charity work, I am a teacher, and I do it because I want to do it and because it's making someones life better... lol or just helping out their character in a game.

I also agree, if someone is rude the first time I tend to brush it off. We don't know whats going on with that person in their RL, and I don't assume to know. If they are rude multiple times then I will probably just stay away from them and try not to interact, but that is their doing by their actions, not mine.

Also I know how you feel, I was shy until I started performing and singing heehee, then I got a lot better after that! Have a lovely day!

Kai,

As always, you have my deepest respect and admiration. ^^

Appreciated! I also respect anyone who can just be kind for the sake of being kind... not because they expect something. Maybe that is whats wrong with our community? Too many people expecting something back for being kind... not enough people willing to be kind just to do it... but I don't honesty know... for the most party my community on my server is very nice.

Aren't you the one I had the long convo with on a thread, I believe so! You were very kind, I'd love to talk with you more!

[Mikita]

Appreciated! I also respect anyone who can just be kind for the sake of being kind... not because they expect something. Maybe that is whats wrong with our community? Too many people expecting something back for being kind... not enough people willing to be kind just to do it... but I don't honesty know... for the most party my community on my server is very nice.

One of the biggest pitfalls we can fall into both in FFXIV and in real life, is when we place our own expectations of what is "right" onto other people.

Like you, it's not rare for me to be out gathering, see someone in trouble, and switch to Conjurer to heal and buff them. I try not to expect anything in return -- and even though people sometimes ignore me, I won't let it stop me from trying. A "thank you" or bow is a nice bonus. ^^

Aren't you the one I had the long convo with on a thread, I believe so! You were very kind, I'd love to talk with you more!

We exchanged a few messages in the "Despite its flaws, i like this game a lot" thread.

I'm not so active on this forum now, but I just followed you on the Lodestone. ^^

[KaiKatzchen]

One of the biggest pitfalls we can fall into both in FFXIV and in real life, is when we place our own expectations of what is "right" onto other people.

Like you, it's not rare for me to be out gathering, see someone in trouble, and switch to Conjurer to heal and buff them. I try not to expect anything in return -- and even though people sometimes ignore me, I won't let it stop me from trying. A "thank you" or bow is a nice bonus. ^^


We exchanged a few messages in the "Despite its flaws, i like this game a lot" thread.

I'm not so active on this forum now, but I just followed you on the Lodestone. ^^

I agree with you, not everyone thinks or feels the same way in situations and 'right' is different from person to person depending on how and where they were raised. Even two people who grew up next door to one another and were friends might end up with a different view on what is 'right'.

It's just nice to help people, regardless. I can't always do it depending on what I am doing, but if I can I always try too.


Woot, I 'followed' you on lodestone as well!