Being Gendered Correctly

[Mellowlicious]

Well, this sure did turn into a thread full of cis people trivializing and mocking the fact that a trans woman doesn't like being misgendered.

Sure is some community Square Enix has gotten together.

Look, here's the problem.

You're seeing a problem that nobody else is having. Sure, some people don't like being called by a different gender, but they don't make a big deal out of it.
If a vast, vast, VAST majority of the players does not see the problem, and only you and a handful of others do, then maybe the other players aren't the problem.
Look, it's really hard to say something like that and I don't want to hurt your feelings, but sometimes you have to toughen up. I know you have actual problems with this and you can't just tell someone to ignore their problem, but maybe you just have to deal with it. The problem here is that calling other players a 'he' is a safe measure that works nearly all the time. And because of a very small exception, everybody is expected to change their ways. Why should everybody change just to cater to the needs of one person? Yeah, sometimes it's nice and considerate, but then we'd have to cater to every single small necessity of every single person alive. Can't make religious statement ("Thank god") because someone is offended. Can't mention romance, love or sex because someone with sexual issues is offended. Etcetera.
That makes the word unlivable. And here it's even worse because nobody even knows you have the problem in-game. You can't expect the rest of the world to tip-toe around, trying to avoid people taking offense to what they say. If random people don't actually mean bad with their speech, ignore it. They don't know better, and if you want to, correct them. Most players will oblige, and then the situation is solved like adults. If someone is a dick about it, report for harassment.

[Penguinmayhem]

and if you want to, correct them. Most players will oblige, and then the situation is solved like adults. If someone is a dick about it, report for harassment.

This is all that matters.

If someone says something that offends you in an open, public discourse, tell them it offends you and ask them to stop. Don't passive-aggressively accept it and then go make a fuss elsewhere and try to get society's rules changed. That only makes more people resent you more.