Being Gendered Correctly

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[Cairdeas]

I have to disagree with you. Gender is not representative about how you dress or behave.

When I say the "Armor De-Gender's" Us I mean things like the new i100 Soldiery Gear. Even on Females it it makes it look like you have pecks and 8 pack abs, It removes any sense of what gender shape the person wearing it is. They could be male or female under it, but the design of it is obviously masculine.

As for "Frilly" When I say that I mean things that range from the Sipahi set to the new Light Plate Glamour armor. Stuff that's not just a male graphic forced on a female character. There are a lot of choices for glamour which I'm thankful for. And I change it up quite often. While appearing gendered externally is not a sign of someones internal gender, some people embrace their external gendered appearance and enjoy dressing up for it. This doesn't make them more or less the gender they identify as.

Not all Females prefer to dress conservatively.

[Titor]

W Even on Females it it makes it look like you have pecks and 8 pack abs, It removes any sense of what gender shape the person wearing it is.

Ok, I agree with you there. There are indeed times when I have to inspect the player to see what sex their character is due to their gear (including some males I mistake as females). So I agree it hides your body shape. I thought you meant that the stereotypical gendered clothes (Frilly armor etc) weren't there.

[Luxx]

this whole thing went to hell as soon as op got all 'feminist power' and insulted all of us
i kinda want my hug back from page one. >>;

[Dreamer]

I'm so glad the in-game community is nothing like these forums.

[Kimmy_Dee]

I'm so glad the in-game community is nothing like these forums.

Very much agreed.

[Marowit]

I'm so glad the in-game community is nothing like these forums.

Isn't the ingame community what caused all this because someone called the op a he?

[Lunavi]

Happens to me too. I have started to point out that I in game want to be refered to as a female. One of the reasons why I do not use TS is because then people will know I am a "man" behind the screen.. (I identify as ungendered, and in game I am female)

[Araeya]

The thing that stands out to me in this situation is that this, like many games, is in the role-playing genre. Any capable person of any gender of any race can play any gender of any race in a make-believe virtual world. That having been said, many choose to play a gender that is not the same as their own for whatever their reasons are. While I don't share your real-life struggle to be accepted and perceived as the gender you feel you should be, I am a female player who plays only female characters and am most often called, "he" by those who don't know me. I understand that, in this type of game, things are often not what they seem, so it honestly doesn't bother me. In fact, when I'm kicking ass on my PLD and someone thinks I'm male, I just chuckle to myself, especially if I'm invited to do further content which requires VOIP and they're all shocked and impressed that I have ovaries. :P

We can't always choose the hands we're dealt in life, but we can certainly choose our battles. Ask yourself if this is one that's going to matter to you a year from now. My bet is that you'll be in a different place with your real-life stuff and it will be like water off a duck's back.

[Kimmy_Dee]

A year from now I will still dislike being misgendered, just as I disliked being misgendered a year ago.