Being Gendered Correctly

[Elvie]

Because what you are on the other end in a game is irrelevant. It's like getting mad at someone that calls everyone they don't know "Bob". It's called insanity.

So a person's gender outside the game isn't relevant... Awesome. Then let's do the logical thing and refer to players according to their in-game gender, unless they tell us it is something different, just like the OP asked in the first place. So glad you agree