Okay, first, stop telling the OP how to feel unless you also suffer from gender dysphoria. When you're trans, being gendered incorrectly is like being reminded you lost a loved one in 9/11 or broke both legs in a skiing accident. You can't turn off your triggers just because other people might trip them by accident.

Second, I think it's ridiculous that ANYONE assumes every FFXIV player is male until proven otherwise. For goddess' sake, this isn't Modern Warfare. It's a Final Fantasy game and an MMORPG. And even the "Bro of Duty" shooters are starting to let people play female characters in multiplayer.