Being Gendered Correctly

[AmyNeudaiz]

I used to get bothered by this a lot honestly it still irks me a bit. But correcting people only makes them say how you're a dude anyway. I just stopped caring and let people find out I'm a girl through voice chat. Lol.

[Galliano]

Good luck changing the mentality of gaming culture via the XIV forums that's been engraved in peoples minds over the past 30-40 years.

If it's your friends calling you "he" then let them know the one time, if it's randomers in pt/df finder then who the hell cares? just ignore them and enjoy the game instead of fixating on a missing letter, in fact just pretend they didn't hit the S key.

[Cyrus-Wallace]

Uh... I'm called a "she" everytime, and I'm a guy. Some guys think I'm a girl even after I tell them I'm a guy.

[Macka]

Uh... I'm called a "she" everytime, and I'm a guy. Some guys think I'm a girl even after I tell them I'm a guy.

I tend to go by what I see Im not calling you a she but your avatar. If I see a female I will call you a she.

[RumiP]

I would probably be in the camp where I would prefer to be corrected. You are in a very small minority, which of course disprivileges you of being referred to correctly at first meeting. Given that player genders are unknown, the majority default to he, given the majority of players are male, or at least perceived as such.

While this provides little relief on your plight, I hope my response paints a less jarring picture of the player base you're having difficulties with. Were someone to step on your toe, you would let them know. Approach this the same way. It's an accident, which your identity in conjunction with this particular online community makes you prone to. I would note that were you communicating in a trans specific community these accidents would likely not happen, as everyone has a similar background from which to form their behavior towards others.

I don't believe I have much other way to remedy this for you or any woman playing who is misgendered as male. It's just an accident, and I believe it comes with the territory.

It's in reality where these accidents would worry me if I were you.

[HumsterMKX]

I guess... in order to no offend anyone by saying "he", we should use "it" instead.

Or we can use other terms like "midget", "knife ears", "generic rpg human", "stereotypical rpg muscle race", "cat", etc. Since the terms are not gender locked like "he" or "she".

[HumsterMKX]

I guess... in order to no offend anyone by saying "he", we should use "it" instead.

Or we can use other terms like "midget", "knife ears", "generic rpg human", "stereotypical rpg muscle race", "cat", etc. Since the terms are not gender locked like "he" or "she".

Ok... lets end this gender thingy... From now on, we refer to everyone using gender neutral terms:

Hyur:
Generic rpg human
*insert colour*human
Dress Wearing human
Pants wearing human

Highlander:
Homeless human
Taller human
Generic barbarian rpg human
Brawny human

Lalafell:
Sand/Plains Midget
Sack of potatoes
Bite-size snack
Pedobear bait
Sacrificial offering

Elezen:
Knife ears
Token generic rpg Elf race
Self proclaim superior race
Drizzt Clone

Miqo'te:
Sun/Moon cat
Furball
Fleabag
Yarn chasers
Lalafell prehistoric predator


Roegadyn:
Stereotypical rpg muscle race
*Go work in the mines*
Not a Galka
No tail Galka


Feel free to add to the list. So ppl don;t feel gender discriminated.

[Ruri]

It's an MMO, people can play whatever race/gender they want and it doesn't mean they are the same gender IRL. I just refer to "them" or by name to avoid those issues lol. I still believe at least 75% of female chars in games especially mmo's are guys IRL. (Including me)

[Araeya]

The thing that stands out to me in this situation is that this, like many games, is in the role-playing genre. Any capable person of any gender of any race can play any gender of any race in a make-believe virtual world. That having been said, many choose to play a gender that is not the same as their own for whatever their reasons are. While I don't share your real-life struggle to be accepted and perceived as the gender you feel you should be, I am a female player who plays only female characters and am most often called, "he" by those who don't know me. I understand that, in this type of game, things are often not what they seem, so it honestly doesn't bother me. In fact, when I'm kicking ass on my PLD and someone thinks I'm male, I just chuckle to myself, especially if I'm invited to do further content which requires VOIP and they're all shocked and impressed that I have ovaries. :P

We can't always choose the hands we're dealt in life, but we can certainly choose our battles. Ask yourself if this is one that's going to matter to you a year from now. My bet is that you'll be in a different place with your real-life stuff and it will be like water off a duck's back.

[Bellybell]

just called them by their name if you don't know which to used he/she

is it really that hard? seriously??