You need to establish normal relations with fellow players and potential friends first. It sounds like you are expecting everyone you meet to accept and adjust their playing to accomodate your preferential "quirks".

If you really want to make and keep friends for the sake of playing with, you need to tone down your agenda and prove to people that you are a decent person AND player. If you can show people you're competent and capable, THEN you can start expressing your thoughts and feelings about your... "customization". If said people truly admire you as a friend, then maybe they'd be interested in seeing what you can do with it.

Overall, remember that just because you think a certain way, your potential friends can perceive it differently. Be mindful and respectful of people you want to develop long-lasting friendships with. You'll acquire true respect if you do.