People point out that the mean things people do in this game is mainly verbal, telling someone what they should be doing, a lot of times being insulting at the same time. One of the worst things I can remember from XI was leveling in Crawler's nest, you could wait to finally get in a group, you get your spot, then 30 minutes later, have a black mage come running up on your group with an exoray and warp out so the enemy would be left there to kill your group, so his group could steal your spot. This happened all the time back on Shiva when the game was still new here, in my mind that is worse than telling someone they are wasting a groups time for not doing job quests.