Is anyone else scared of dungeons or trying to progress?

[Kat_Manx]

What's up with all the mean people?

I don't know. MMORPG's used to be fun. Granted the only experience I had was FFXI and sure there were some meanies, but nowhere close to this game. I hear people saying this behavior is common in other games nowadays like WoW or whatever, but I don't find it an excuse. You shouldn't be allowed to behave badly just because other people behave badly somewhere else too.

I'm scared of entering a dungeon the first time. Sure I watch videos, even though mind you I shouldn't have to. Ridiculous people actually bully you into doing that. Sure I could run with the FC but it's just not that large. I think hardly any FC on my server is large.

I haven't entered Garuda Extreme yet. I'm just too scared of people. I am absolutely sure there's some move I won't dodge. Then the verbal abuse starts.

I did the Crystal Tower thing once. It was horrible. Not the dungeon that is. The people.

I dared to enter Bahamut's Coil once. I didn't do well, was yelled at. Never going to enter it again.

I wish someone was nice.. even once. Real life is horrible enough.. why do I pay for a game to get insulted? Grow a thicker skin you say maybe? Been bullied enough in my life to just not make that possible. Thought I could escape it here. Maybe I can't.

[wildgalax]

sadly that is the case. I would suggest find fc/ls friends to play with. You can also switch to battle chat just to block any chat you you wont have to read nasty stuff if said, or just leave if people are rude. However its not always the case, theres nice people out there as well.

[SendohJin]

I hear people saying this behavior is common in other games nowadays like WoW or whatever, but I don't find it an excuse. You shouldn't be allowed to behave badly just because other people behave badly somewhere else too.

it's cause they are the same people. those people never played games like FFXI.

you just need to talk to more people that you find are not mean. PUGs and Party Finder groups will be like this most of the time.

[Seig345]

I know exactly what you mean, and while I've started to get a little braver (with the low level duty roulette anyway), I still feel anxiety whenever I queue-up as a tank. I'm usually healer, so I'm outside my comfort zone as it is, then I have a random chance of either getting a decent party (luck has held lately with the roulette so far), or I'll get partied up with that one impatient DPS that runs ahead and aggros stuff to try and drag you forward because they aren't there to play with people, or to play through the dungeon content, they're there to make their numbers go up as fast as possible.

Or you get that snobby Whm that freaks out if a monster gets a couple hits in before you pull them back off... In Copperbell (normal mode)... Heck, you try to be nice to newbies in Sastasha and even then there's a chance you're paired with a new player who spits in your face at the 'dishonor' of even insinuating they need pointers.

[Kal-El]

If you're getting this abuse constantly I'd change servers. Feel free to come to Behemoth and I'll gladly help you through dungeons. Although I won't be able to help with Coil as I'm in a static our FC have multiple groups running at different levels from our group doing turn 5 to another group attempting T1-2 for the first time.

There are a lot of asshats out there but there are some nice people. The trick is to do content with people at a similar ilevel as this tends to be an indication of how far they have progressed. I'm ilevel 88 but I'd have no problem joining a group of ilevel60's trying to down Titan HM for example because I genuinely enjoy helping people.

Don't let people get you down. Set up a party finder and tell them that this is a learning run. You'll be surprised how many people are in the same boat and will join.

[Arkune]

Since you played XI, you probably know why this community changed to such a "mean" one. As easier a game is, the more Elitists will Pop up, while XI is/was a real timesink MMO, which took Ages to complete something it also gave "slower" Players more time to envolve, i also have to mention that Long time ago, YouTube Videos and stuff wasnt the hit and no1 really cared about strategys because Boss Encounters had RNG's and every Group had to find their own way to beat a Boss and everytime you made a new atempt on a Boss he acts different (talking about XI). Ill add here an example from the beginning of ARR and the first weeks after release.

1 Week, 1 Job in 50
2 Week, more Jobs on 50 and 1 Full Set of Darklight
in the 3 Week the first Relics were finished it with the end of the 3 Week we already had the wanna be elistis they only shout for experience People with Relic/DL and you should know the fight even before you atempt him already.

This is basicly my opinion why this Community became so toxic.

[Swishytail]

People are people. A lot of people take their real-life frustrations out via the game, which isn't right.
A lot of people have nobody to vent to outside of the game, or anyone to yell at or belittle, so they
do it from the comfort of their computer chair because really, besides being reported, there's no risk
of punishment or repercussion for them.

And honestly, some people play MMOs for the sole purpose to belittle people. They get kicks out of it.
I wouldn't let it get to you. Like wildgalax said, just find the right crowd and you can enjoy the game.

[Ashira]

I went to Crystal Tower today and we had a tank with us that had never been there before. We tried to explain tactics to him within the party the best we could before someone else in the alliance pulled anyway. The tank to his credit was doing great. When we arrived at Atomos we let the new tank grab the adds, but once again didn't have time to explain where to position them; he was confused as to what was happening and we wiped. The following abuse from the alliance was sickening;

"Kick that tank out of the party."

"Don't let the noob do anything important."

"You just killed everyone. GG."

We even had one person within our party try and kick him, which was denied by everyone else, including myself. We tried to find out who tried to kick him, but a few members were just silent. Stick with your Free Company Kat and try to fill it with all the friendly people you can find.

[shadowrell_d-_-b]

sad ppl can't be more open to players learning new fights, I have even taken time to create training and progression PF groups for EX primals (mind you I have beaten them all several times) just to help newer players learn the fights in a group that isn't trying to bite their head off every time they make a mistake.

I wish you luck and hope you find a group of players to progress with that can bring the fun back in the game for you! just know that there are also a lot of good people online they are just drowned out by the people that think themselves better than the rest.

[Lukahn]

Sentiments.

Come to Midgardsormr. There is a group of at least 3 linkshells (same leader with max membership) with the sole purpose of friendliness and helping each other. Or you could talk to our FC, we have lots of fun.