Duty Roulette (High Level) Abandons

[BlueMage]

I disagree that the answer is always that all tanks are just lazy elitist jerks as you'd frame it.

You have to take into account that some people join roulette and are willing to tolerate new players, just not rude/argumentative players.

And then there's also the fact that sometimes a party has no chance of success whatsoever. I've had parties in AK, for example, where the DD had below Lv30 pieces of gear (You dont need i90, but at least AF or over Lv40 gear) and were just clueless about how to play. I was patient, explained how to do Demonwall, and attempt after attempt after attempt, they'd get knocked off the edges or not put out enough DPS, until the timer for the dungeon finally ran out. That's a lot of time to put in for nothing but wipe after wipe and trying to teach a party that just doesn't get it, and even if they did just don't have the gear and competence to pull through. You can't expect everyone to be willing to do that and tolerate that though.

When most people get in a hopeless party, or a party with excessively rude/argumentative people, they'd rather just eat a debuff than suffer an un-fun miserable experience. They queue for DF because most people are pleasant and competent, but sometimes you draw the short straw. Random groups are random groups. If you want the most reliable and committed people in the world who will always stay with you and help you through anything, your statement of "People should just get FCs if they want dungeons their way!" applies to yourself as well.

But if you find that all of your parties/tanks are abandoning you, I think instead of ranting and pointing fingers at everyone else, perhaps you should take a look at yourself.