Ah thanks for the replies, all. I think I just get frustrated joining a DF party and having everyone either run ahead and pull more groups than I want, or complain to me that we're going too slow. I did Ifrit about 30 times until I got the sword, but it has seemed to help only marginally. I don't really have aggro issues as I just end up spamming flash and using a ROH combo while tabbing through trash packs, but it is a lot more stressful to me than going at my own pace. Worse are the ones that don't talk at all the entire time until we beat the dungeon and then say things like 'learn to pull faster' and such :/ makes me want to just finish gearing my bard and pewpewing all day (if that's even a word...). Oh, and even at the pace I like, we keep plenty ahead of the wandering big Tonberries -- as long as we have enough dps.