SE does not do it for the few of us who knows what we doing. They do it for all the people who made mistake in 1.0 and FFXI. This is why they ask you are you use you want join? or are you very sure you want to turn down the invitation. Sorry to say but they going to keep doing that and it's something you have to deal with due to most people making mistake and bitching on the forums because they drop or lost something.